This is just an observation. YMMV, of course. But I've noticed this with increasing frequency in recent years...
It's not necessarily a "new" thing. Lying certainly isn't new. But I imagine there must have been a time when, hypothetically, you could make plans with someone, or discuss something, and they would damn well hold to it/keep their word...
Like, in my observation, this happens all the damn time: people flake, people change their mind at the last minute, people ghost (and I do it, too), people, worst of all, change plans, or change their mind, and don't even tell you...
I'm not talking just with women, either. My male "friends" do this. My family does this. Constantly. Randoms I meet, and plan to meet up with later, do this too. And sure, I'm a common factor, but I see this happening more generally, to all manner of people I know, too.
I really, really wish that we "as a society" hadn't normalised this... "Flaky", noncommittal, "my needs come first, always" bullshit...
I really, really do.
If there's a culture where keeping your word and actually committing is still the default, I look forward to one day finding it. Because I am yet to really... Ever experience that. And I've travelled fairly widely and met a lot of people.
Sometimes people are afraid to disappoint, and don't recognize, acknowledge, or really take into account their own limitations. Time management, focus and attention, self discipline, etc etc.
I think it's especially more common with just how increasingly time consuming it is to try and get just about any seemingly simple task done, especially with how finnicky and unreliable technology can be.
There's also so much more we want to do, get done, experience, and achieve, because there's so much more at our finger tips. And yet we still have just as little time as we've had for hundreds of years. More in some regards, but still a rather finite lifespan and a limited supply of energy and focus.
Might just be me projecting though. But that's something I've been feeling for a while now.
Interesting… I’ve said before that I don’t mind so much when people give me, let’s say, tenuous plans (like a “maybe”), and then pull out…
What I hate is when someone commits (“Oh yeah, definitely let’s do that!”), and then a) pulls out at the last minute, or b) changes their mind and doesn’t bother telling me…
That’s just rude and inconsiderate. I understand that time is finite, but this, this situation as I describe it, has resulted in so much wasted time and money on my part that I hardly even bother anymore, unfortunately…
I’m very, very jaded to people continuously doing this…