I think you're closer to the truth than people realize. There were a lot of unhappy marriages because people felt forced into marriage. Men out of a sense of duty and social norm. Women for resources. Women actually had all the leverage though. If a man left a woman he was forced to pay alimony. That means most relationships were female led which is horrible. No sex yet the man forces to do all the work. Women cooked at best but I imagine they barely did that and it's exaggerated. So many men were alcoholics. Why? Likely the trauma of being stuck in a marriage with a despicable woman. It honestly sounds like hell.
Of course there would be these story book perfect marriages but every era has those. You're just as likely to find those today as you were to find them in the 50s. Hypergamy was still king back then too. Women wanted to be married to the hottest rich guys and no one else.
The 50s were still gynocratic hell but with no escape for men.
If people want to go to a time that was good they need to go back to an era where women were considered property of men and it was perfectly legal to do whatever you wanted with your property. You could kill your wife for misbehaving if you wanted to and no one would bat an eye, not even her parents because she was 100% your possession and they were happy to rid of her which cost them a hefty dowry. This is the only time things were looking good for men.
Sadly, I think our current age is probably one of the best for men and worst for women. The problem is that men have been enslaved by women for most of humanity without realizing it. Women don't realize it either but that's the truth. Modernity represents the first time men can truly break free as best as possible though it's not ideal because the government still does lots to harm men. Women are worse off because for the first time they have value outside of enslaving men through labor value but all that has accomplished for women is increase their amount of work for the same share of resources.
Guys on here that romanticise the 50s need to realize that nothing about the 50s changed female behavior. Women still would holdout on providing sex in marriages unless you did what they wanted but nothing was ever good enough. Even in the 50s you couldn't rape your wife and even if you could she'd make the whole rape worse for you than her somehow. Bait you into beating her and get the simps to help her while she economically rapes you for alimony. Only really lucky men or rich and powerful, good looking men ever got what they wanted. The same as now.
You're forgetting the rise of "no-fault" divorce in the 1970s and 1980's. This was a major policy goal of the feminist movement at the time.
In the 1950's, in order to get alimony, a woman had to prove nelgect or abuse in court. And if the man could prove she cheated she would likely get nothing.
I'm also not sure when states started going to community property but most, if not all, of them back then considered wages to belong to the earner alone, not the spouse. So, a housewife who failed to prove abuse got nothing when she divorced her husband.
The nature of women may not have changed, but their ability to monkey branch and cheat without consequence absolutely has. You may have been miserable in your marriage, by the wife knew that she wasn't getting any exit prizes if she left you.
You're just proving how much women purposely caused their men to beat them. I can only imagine the horrors men would have had to endure because most men wouldn't want to leave their wives but their wives wanted to entrap their husbands in alimony. The amount of abuse men would have had to endure sounds off the charts.
I've heard many women tell their stories of domestic violence before and I roll my eyes. My parents divorced and my mom always talks about her abuse meanwhile it was my father being abused far more.
The latest eye rolling "abusive relationship" I heard was some fat cow from work talk about her last boyfriend she was engaged to who abused her. Apparently, the guy made like $300k/yr (I can confirm that's legit based on who he was and what he did for work) and she didn't work. They lived together. He'd come home from work and expect her to have dinner ready for him and if she didn't have dinner ready he'd go into a blind rage and sometimes the fighting would lead to him pushing her up against the wall or physically threatening her. He was an alcoholic and would go into blind rages at her. She showed pics of how she used to look like when they first started dating and she was this skinny looking emo girls. Very cute. Now she's this land whale pig cow thing.
Come on, I wasn't born yesterday. Clearly, she gained weight and refused to do anything for him. Wouldn't even cook his meals. She was living off his $300k/yr doing nothing. Of course he started drinking, got depressed, angry and frustrated because he had a terrible girlfriend. She literally caused the whole situation by being a fat ugly lazy land whale that couldn't even cook her fiance a meal. Yet she tells everyone he was abusive and it was all his fault.
I think you're closer to the truth than people realize. There were a lot of unhappy marriages because people felt forced into marriage. Men out of a sense of duty and social norm. Women for resources. Women actually had all the leverage though. If a man left a woman he was forced to pay alimony. That means most relationships were female led which is horrible. No sex yet the man forces to do all the work. Women cooked at best but I imagine they barely did that and it's exaggerated. So many men were alcoholics. Why? Likely the trauma of being stuck in a marriage with a despicable woman. It honestly sounds like hell.
Of course there would be these story book perfect marriages but every era has those. You're just as likely to find those today as you were to find them in the 50s. Hypergamy was still king back then too. Women wanted to be married to the hottest rich guys and no one else.
The 50s were still gynocratic hell but with no escape for men.
If people want to go to a time that was good they need to go back to an era where women were considered property of men and it was perfectly legal to do whatever you wanted with your property. You could kill your wife for misbehaving if you wanted to and no one would bat an eye, not even her parents because she was 100% your possession and they were happy to rid of her which cost them a hefty dowry. This is the only time things were looking good for men.
Sadly, I think our current age is probably one of the best for men and worst for women. The problem is that men have been enslaved by women for most of humanity without realizing it. Women don't realize it either but that's the truth. Modernity represents the first time men can truly break free as best as possible though it's not ideal because the government still does lots to harm men. Women are worse off because for the first time they have value outside of enslaving men through labor value but all that has accomplished for women is increase their amount of work for the same share of resources.
Guys on here that romanticise the 50s need to realize that nothing about the 50s changed female behavior. Women still would holdout on providing sex in marriages unless you did what they wanted but nothing was ever good enough. Even in the 50s you couldn't rape your wife and even if you could she'd make the whole rape worse for you than her somehow. Bait you into beating her and get the simps to help her while she economically rapes you for alimony. Only really lucky men or rich and powerful, good looking men ever got what they wanted. The same as now.
You're forgetting the rise of "no-fault" divorce in the 1970s and 1980's. This was a major policy goal of the feminist movement at the time.
In the 1950's, in order to get alimony, a woman had to prove nelgect or abuse in court. And if the man could prove she cheated she would likely get nothing.
I'm also not sure when states started going to community property but most, if not all, of them back then considered wages to belong to the earner alone, not the spouse. So, a housewife who failed to prove abuse got nothing when she divorced her husband.
The nature of women may not have changed, but their ability to monkey branch and cheat without consequence absolutely has. You may have been miserable in your marriage, by the wife knew that she wasn't getting any exit prizes if she left you.
You're just proving how much women purposely caused their men to beat them. I can only imagine the horrors men would have had to endure because most men wouldn't want to leave their wives but their wives wanted to entrap their husbands in alimony. The amount of abuse men would have had to endure sounds off the charts.
No defence of anyone - but most domestic violence is reciprocal, and lesbians have a particular soft spot for it.
I've heard many women tell their stories of domestic violence before and I roll my eyes. My parents divorced and my mom always talks about her abuse meanwhile it was my father being abused far more.
The latest eye rolling "abusive relationship" I heard was some fat cow from work talk about her last boyfriend she was engaged to who abused her. Apparently, the guy made like $300k/yr (I can confirm that's legit based on who he was and what he did for work) and she didn't work. They lived together. He'd come home from work and expect her to have dinner ready for him and if she didn't have dinner ready he'd go into a blind rage and sometimes the fighting would lead to him pushing her up against the wall or physically threatening her. He was an alcoholic and would go into blind rages at her. She showed pics of how she used to look like when they first started dating and she was this skinny looking emo girls. Very cute. Now she's this land whale pig cow thing.
Come on, I wasn't born yesterday. Clearly, she gained weight and refused to do anything for him. Wouldn't even cook his meals. She was living off his $300k/yr doing nothing. Of course he started drinking, got depressed, angry and frustrated because he had a terrible girlfriend. She literally caused the whole situation by being a fat ugly lazy land whale that couldn't even cook her fiance a meal. Yet she tells everyone he was abusive and it was all his fault.
That's 99.99% of abusive relationships.