No need to respect men when it’s not needed to get the ultimate outcome with one
This is where the lies of modern western society come in. The ultimate outcome with a man, for a woman, isn’t sex - it’s a relationship. Any woman can get pumped and dumped by a chad. They’ve been told that this is empowering, but their hind brains know better. That’s why they suffer a slow but steady soul death as they fail to find an appropriate mate before crashing into the wall.
Modern society isn't helping men or women. You need to take a break from the internet for a few months dude. You've gone crazier over time posting here.
Women can use it to find a new man to sleep with on demand with no effort, getting a dopamine hit akin to hard drugs. No need to respect men when its not needed to get the ultimate outcome with one.
This makes no sense. Women have always been able to get relatively attractive men to sleep with them. To suggest that they had to exert 'effort' for it, when men always make the first move in every culture, is quite laughable. It's the other way around: because men have Tinder, they feel less of a need to commit (which is what women want) to get what they really want.
Contrary to part 1, the men that get selected are of a very small set of men, and the men that don't get selected hear of the large like and match totals from one or two of their friends that have a few things in common; height, facial features, good hair.
So women have high standards even on Tinder? Good. Cause I see plenty of examples of terribly low standards.
Highly-confident men also do well by nature of their confidence being apparent in everything they do;
Not on Tinder...
obviously, that confidence is hard to build if one doesn't have it, and despite the whole "fake it til you make it" movement
Obviously. Confidence is mostly a thermometer of your accomplishments. Faking it doesn't make accomplishments any more than painting on the thermometer warms your home.
Yes, by going out and getting themselves noticed to a degree. Online dating has removed even that barrier, to which women only need to open an app and choose the top 1% of her hundreds of matches.
And then go on a date with someone who may stalk or kill you. And here in Europe, the men don't even pay for dinner. I'm exaggerating, of course, but I don't see why you think the position of women is more enviable.
Remember that it's men who want 'the night'. Women, generally, want a relationship. So you're using men getting what they want as proof that they're worse off. They really are no happier for it. Don't imagine a comparison with yourself, how happy you could be if you could get many hot women as an average guy (if you are).
You confuse "first move" with effort. Men need to break the ice, but you seem to assume a woman needs to do nothing in order to have ice he wants to break in the first place. Tinder requires a few selfies and pictures that can be doctored with filters.
Those things work both ways. What's easier for a guy who is not confident, to swipe or to approach a woman in real life?
If this is the case, then why are the numbers skewed in the favor of women by such a large margin? It can't be that a large majority of men don't meet the standards of all women, as you seem to be implying below.
I'm not sure what you are referring to. Why can it not be that a large majority of men on Tinder don't meet the standards of most women? Besides, you're going to get the best you can get. If you can get both an 8 and a 10, you'd got for the 10. Why blame women because men don't have standards?
Give me an example of some of those low standards.
Gosh man, whenever I see Americans talking about this, it's as if they're from a different planet. Cause I go out and see relatively OK females with the most grotesque specimens you can imagine. It is very rare that I see a good-looking guy or even just fit guy with an ugly girl. It may be that they're all wealthy or something (though they don't look like it), but I'm not living in Beverly Hills. It's just a normal European city.
Conversely, what are your standards for men? And are you willing to compromise if a man meets all but one of your standards?
Are you assuming that I am female, or do you think my takes are so out there that I must be a homosexual? (I'm not offended, it's funny.)
I think for me, as for most, there's a few sine qua non conditions and some nice to haves. My standards are definitely higher than for most women. Basically, do you make my life better? That is rarely the case.
No, they do on Tinder as well. It's an extreme confidence. We all have anecdotes of the goofy looking dude we know who slays on Tinder; he also tends to slay in real life too. It's really the one mutable skill on which men can improve that'll have a tangible benefit to their dating life; however, like the immutable aspects, only the best of the best will get selected given the middle-man of online dating.
Yeah, I don't think confidence is readily perceptible through online interactions. For example, I'd peg you just based on how you talk as a fairly confident guy, but I assume based on the contents of your comments that you do not consider yourself confident. So how could someone even tell?
We'll disagree here. A lot of the lack of confidence in the dating market is due to constant rejection, which happens to most men who aren't in the extremes of the intangibles.
It happens to everyone. For fun, just ask a so called 'Chad' how often he has been rejected. Unless he's a braggart, you're going to hear: quite a lot. It's like a guy who has sent job applications to two companies, both of them rejected, and thinks that a guy with a great job somehow had an imperial emissary arrive and offer him the job. No, unless he was very lucky, he tried a lot and got rejected a lot.
Despite career and perhaps even physical accomplishments, enough women hold to their extreme standards enough that they will still reject those men, and every rejection is a chip from the confidence block.
Honestly, if I had a magic wand, I'd have women raise their standards. I have encountered truly grotesque creatures, balding, fat, unintelligent, unclever, no money, no home, no social skills, land themselves a fair 5. At least get your man to lose some weight. Have some standards, because I don't want to have to look at that.
It'd be nice if men raised their standards as well. It is exaggerated that 'any woman can get any Chad', but the fact that men have no standards causes trouble for those considered less desirable. At least in the Tinder market. Obviously, no 'Chad' is going to go out with some fat abomination, so the 'less desirable' men will have to break her fall when she turns 30.
This is where the lies of modern western society come in. The ultimate outcome with a man, for a woman, isn’t sex - it’s a relationship. Any woman can get pumped and dumped by a chad. They’ve been told that this is empowering, but their hind brains know better. That’s why they suffer a slow but steady soul death as they fail to find an appropriate mate before crashing into the wall.
The ultimate outcome isn't a relationship either, it's access to his wealth.
Don't pretend they are victims, it's sickening.
Modern society isn't helping men or women. You need to take a break from the internet for a few months dude. You've gone crazier over time posting here.
Modern society is practically built bespoke for women.
Say, weren't you recently caught lying about Kyle Rittenhouse receiving a "huge settlement" in order to lie about his girlfriend being a gold-digger?
Just cause you're a miserable creature, doesn't mean everyone else has to be.
This makes no sense. Women have always been able to get relatively attractive men to sleep with them. To suggest that they had to exert 'effort' for it, when men always make the first move in every culture, is quite laughable. It's the other way around: because men have Tinder, they feel less of a need to commit (which is what women want) to get what they really want.
So women have high standards even on Tinder? Good. Cause I see plenty of examples of terribly low standards.
Not on Tinder...
Obviously. Confidence is mostly a thermometer of your accomplishments. Faking it doesn't make accomplishments any more than painting on the thermometer warms your home.
And then go on a date with someone who may stalk or kill you. And here in Europe, the men don't even pay for dinner. I'm exaggerating, of course, but I don't see why you think the position of women is more enviable.
Remember that it's men who want 'the night'. Women, generally, want a relationship. So you're using men getting what they want as proof that they're worse off. They really are no happier for it. Don't imagine a comparison with yourself, how happy you could be if you could get many hot women as an average guy (if you are).
Those things work both ways. What's easier for a guy who is not confident, to swipe or to approach a woman in real life?
I'm not sure what you are referring to. Why can it not be that a large majority of men on Tinder don't meet the standards of most women? Besides, you're going to get the best you can get. If you can get both an 8 and a 10, you'd got for the 10. Why blame women because men don't have standards?
Gosh man, whenever I see Americans talking about this, it's as if they're from a different planet. Cause I go out and see relatively OK females with the most grotesque specimens you can imagine. It is very rare that I see a good-looking guy or even just fit guy with an ugly girl. It may be that they're all wealthy or something (though they don't look like it), but I'm not living in Beverly Hills. It's just a normal European city.
Are you assuming that I am female, or do you think my takes are so out there that I must be a homosexual? (I'm not offended, it's funny.)
I think for me, as for most, there's a few sine qua non conditions and some nice to haves. My standards are definitely higher than for most women. Basically, do you make my life better? That is rarely the case.
Yeah, I don't think confidence is readily perceptible through online interactions. For example, I'd peg you just based on how you talk as a fairly confident guy, but I assume based on the contents of your comments that you do not consider yourself confident. So how could someone even tell?
It happens to everyone. For fun, just ask a so called 'Chad' how often he has been rejected. Unless he's a braggart, you're going to hear: quite a lot. It's like a guy who has sent job applications to two companies, both of them rejected, and thinks that a guy with a great job somehow had an imperial emissary arrive and offer him the job. No, unless he was very lucky, he tried a lot and got rejected a lot.
Honestly, if I had a magic wand, I'd have women raise their standards. I have encountered truly grotesque creatures, balding, fat, unintelligent, unclever, no money, no home, no social skills, land themselves a fair 5. At least get your man to lose some weight. Have some standards, because I don't want to have to look at that.
It'd be nice if men raised their standards as well. It is exaggerated that 'any woman can get any Chad', but the fact that men have no standards causes trouble for those considered less desirable. At least in the Tinder market. Obviously, no 'Chad' is going to go out with some fat abomination, so the 'less desirable' men will have to break her fall when she turns 30.