These gays who do effeminate behavior feel no need to embody masculine traits because it is easier for them. It is all learned behavior. While a bit of it might be to what they feel can attract a man, most of it is to fit in with the groups they want to be a part of. Of those groups, most of those traits are from women, who developed it because no one ever disabused them of their irritating damn personality traits.
There are some things gay men can and will do that straight men won't (aside from gay sex/kissing) because there are no women who call them out as 'fags' like those same women would straight men. Men's learned behavior is heavily influenced by women and the need to impress/attract them. Even gay men feel the need to impress them.
Yeah, I'm not going down the "everything is a social construct" route.
Men's learned behavior is heavily influenced by women and the need to impress/attract them. Even gay men feel the need to impress them.
No, not really. Gay men don't need to impress women. Most straight men act in response to being attracted to women and wanting their approval. That's pretty normal since they are heterosexual. There's not a social structure that needs to institutionalize them for that.
Moreover, the problem that straight men have is that they aren't socially instructed to gain the approval of women. They are so "snake-bitten" that there are tons of young men who have real drive or ambition in regards to women at all. So, in response, they don't really try to have that drive, they don't introspect very hard, they don't try to be strong & masculine, they don't try to be the provider, and they don't try to be the protector; all because they assumed women had already ejected them from the genetic lottery.
And your entire hypothesis is full of shit.
These gays who do effeminate behavior feel no need to embody masculine traits because it is easier for them. It is all learned behavior. While a bit of it might be to what they feel can attract a man, most of it is to fit in with the groups they want to be a part of. Of those groups, most of those traits are from women, who developed it because no one ever disabused them of their irritating damn personality traits.
There are some things gay men can and will do that straight men won't (aside from gay sex/kissing) because there are no women who call them out as 'fags' like those same women would straight men. Men's learned behavior is heavily influenced by women and the need to impress/attract them. Even gay men feel the need to impress them.
Yeah, I'm not going down the "everything is a social construct" route.
No, not really. Gay men don't need to impress women. Most straight men act in response to being attracted to women and wanting their approval. That's pretty normal since they are heterosexual. There's not a social structure that needs to institutionalize them for that.
Moreover, the problem that straight men have is that they aren't socially instructed to gain the approval of women. They are so "snake-bitten" that there are tons of young men who have real drive or ambition in regards to women at all. So, in response, they don't really try to have that drive, they don't introspect very hard, they don't try to be strong & masculine, they don't try to be the provider, and they don't try to be the protector; all because they assumed women had already ejected them from the genetic lottery.