If we're so undesirable, us avoiding them would make no difference.

That's not true! You genetic dead ends provide us with a great mount of comic relief.

B : Not everyone who is desirable wishes to be with a woman.

If you find homosexuals desirable.

I feel the same revulsion towards them that Jews feel when they see a swastika.

Great. Now imagine this, and a vastly, vastly higher rape and murder rate targeted at your gender. That is how women feel towards you. If they hate you, it's justified, or so you so.

I don't wish to delude myself into a happy state of ignorance.

A happy state of ignorance is surely preferable to your unhappy state of ignorance.