Why do Europeans put up with no free speech right, no right for self-defense, weak feckless leaders, the EU bureaucracy, and so on?

Because people's lives there are generally easy and without real hardship. Part of that is the march of technology, making people's lives easier in general.

So America will follow that model and just continue to weaken. Trannie bathrooms in Oklahomo and so on. There won't be a civil war or revolution until people face real hardship.