To this day, my absolute top comment on Reddit was from going to AskWomen and explaining to women how male friend groups treat each other is not an unrelenting stream of abuse and fragile toxic masculinity, but integrity tests to ensure that their emotional walls are strong enough to endure the shocks of life.

It started as a result of a woman complaining that men were constantly berating each other in what she saw as masculine dick-measuring contests; and I had to explain what she really saw, and why those are so important.

5 years later, and still probably 1-3 times a year, someone swings by my messages to tell me thanks.

I think the biggest takeaways that I saw were that:

• Women never built up emotional walls, and were always stunned, surprised, or hurt, when men interacted with them like men. Women built up each other's egos, but had nothing to protect them with.

• Men who never experienced normal socialization always thought every ball was a brick, and so reacted badly, accordingly.