I don't see it as complicated at all. It is baby murder, whether you say it is to save the life of the mother or whatever reason is given. Pro life is just saying "don't kill the baby". Pro choice is one variation or another on the mother's rights/body/whatever taking priority over the baby.

I know you don't see it that way and it seems complicated to you, but it is clear to me. The vast majority of abortions are women electing to have sex and then electing to kill the baby. In the case of a rape, the baby certainly wasn't the one abusing the mother, so it makes no sense to give it the death penalty, regardless of how hideous a crime the father committed.

I'm not saying this from a position of superiority. I used to think it was complicated like you do now. Eventually I forgave and accepted God back into my life, and he gave me the clarity I needed on this issue.