It probably is accurate to call it rape. I don’t care if somebody wants to have sex with a trans person but if they don’t tell you and you reach down there and there’s a dick, that’s a big shock when you’re fairly vulnerable.

I remember one date with a hot chick I had, it was a little noisy where we were and she was talking about trans people. I couldn’t tell if she said she was trans or ‘if’ she was trans, and I spent the whole evening with that in the back of my mind because although she’s hot, she’s tall (6’) and athletic, so it’s not like it couldn’t have been a remote possibility. I remember reaching under her dress that night so fucking worried. Thankfully she was a real woman and was a conservative making fun of trans folks that night before she told me she thought Hillary Clinton should be in jail, but I felt like I was reaching into a snake’s nest when I went in.

If she was a guy, I wouldn’t have hurt her or anything, but I also would have immediately asked her to leave and been a little traumatized by it. I don’t know how trans people react in those situations but if they got mad at me and tried to bone me or something I might throw some hands because it’s surprise penis coming at you after you just told them no. If it was a Mandingo too, might reach over to my gun safe.