Amen. Your post makes me think of that Chris Rock standup where he talks about the difference between black people and niggers. Sadly Chris Rock has bent the knee a long time ago and wouldn't have the guts to make that point today.

A huge problem is that as a society we keep rewarding people for being victims or being offended. Also, nobody pushes back when they see young black people talk about being oppressed and of course as you mention the crime rates. God forbid you actually address that and get to the root causes. If a white person talks about this they are racist, if a black person who grew up in the hood and worked his/her way out talk about it they are white supremacists/or have internalized self hatred.

My dad predicted what you are describing a few years back (growing resentment) and it will keep growing until true equality if practiced where people are held to the same standards.