You're repeating the idea that defending yourself is "bad" - the attitude that is getting you absolutely run over. Yeah it's clumsy and not quite right. But you should be going for "yeah I have a right to defend myself and the people around me" rather than parroting back the attitude that it's always bad when you defend yourself or the people around you.
I think you got totally the wrong take on this.
You're repeating the idea that defending yourself is "bad" - the attitude that is getting you absolutely run over. Yeah it's clumsy and not quite right. But you should be going for "yeah I have a right to defend myself and the people around me" rather than parroting back the attitude that it's always bad when you defend yourself or the people around you.