I don’t know how to raise a boy when I genuinely hate modern men and masculinity. My husband is an exception because he’s done such a lot of work on himself, and rationally I know that we need more exceptions like this, and good parents to raise them. I know I would love any child with my whole heart, and fight for them like a lioness.

But then I pick my daughter up from her alternative, free-thinking school and see the boys still fighting and kicking in the playground. I hear about my friend’s pre teen son sneaking graphic porn on the computer. I hear “boys will be boys” and that those who won’t end up labelled as trans, and I just don’t know if I could do it.

That's the thing, boys need those kind of interactions in order to develop the kind of masculinity her husband has, it helps them to define boundaries. You can't just expect them to know how to channelize their energy and agression from the get go. If you see two boys fighting and your kneejerk reaction is to blame the patriarchy you don't understand men, and you aren't even trying to

Edit: Of course they aren't trying to understand men, they think is easier aborting/abandoning a human being for not measuring up to their expectations than just nurturing him.

"Sorry Jimmy, I am emotionally distant and neglectful towards you because you don't fit my ideal of a man and if I knew things would be like this I'd had aborted you when I had the chance". Disgusting all around

It always cracks me up when women think their little predators are going to turn out different by virtue of having you as a mother.

Wow