Their advantage is knowing they can start things and police will take their side.

That only works if they assume that they won't incur significant damage before police arrives to take their side. Hence, deterrence. If you get attacked by a woman, then that is a failure of deterrence on your part.

Well...that's a difficult question to answer. Assuming I actually was a leader with actual power to change things...would I still think the same way? Would I moderate my thoughts? Would I back down to make compromises? I don't know, I haven't been and probably will never be in a position to find out.

I do not mean that you would command, because as someone who actually cares about ideas rather than just power for power's sake, you would be marvelously unsuccessful at it.

I mean if people followed as instructions that you post, like you were some Socrates.