I decided to try out tinder and discovered the site is absolute garbage. There are no real browsing options, interest selection is limited, there are fucking trannies who failed to properly disclose their status so they show up where they shouldn't, and it prohibits you from manually disclosing your location by forcing you to use location services.
Edit: Was likely banned for saying in the account description I hate regressive leftists and muslims, and also for saying I hate gender identity. Another possibility was that defending lolicon got me wrongfully banned for pro-pedo speech.
I’m in the Bay Area. There are a bunch of ups and downs to that, but one upside is that there are a lot of people from all over, both from other states and other countries, so numbers-wise you can meet a lot of people. Most of the more based people here aren’t from here, though some hold overs from the 90s and before can be pretty based. I’m okay looking but that’s mostly from working at it, and I’m not a 10 or anything. I am hyper muscular though, so if someone wants someone that’s buffer or super hero looking, I play well to that, and I don’t have much competition there because most people here are tiny and frail, so I’m basically Mr. Olympia by comparison despite being far from that. Went through some health stuff that made that more complicated but I still pulled another 21 year old despite feeling like shit and to me looking like crap. Lived together a couple years or more. We’d have been married if I hadn’t encouraged her to continue on with her Master’s during the pandemic, which is where she got flipped leftisty. I’d wished I’d married plenty of the others but things came up and I was cold feety about it despite them being head over heels and wonderful people. You’re dumber when you’re younger, which I’m sure you can relate to. I’d probably tell my younger self to just marry my HS GF and start early.
If there’s something to me it’s probably more the location. My hair’s also thinning but cut well it doesn’t look that bad and although I was paranoid about it I’ve never had anybody say anything about it or notice anything despite me noticing. I’ll probably shave it at some point, and all my ex’s were always okay with that. A lot of them had only dated bald guys, though I’m not bald. Definitely take care of your hair situation though. Shaved looks better than balding, and I know a lot of guys that get SMP, which lets you look like you have a 5 O’Clock shadow when it’s shaved and you can even have a buzzcut with it and you still look like you’re just rocking a nicer shaved head with a full head of hair under there. I’d probably just go Mr. Clean though myself since I’m blonde. I’m on TRT+ now but I wasn’t when I was doing any of this or them so I didn’t need to that help, though it does make life a lot easier now that I’m older.
All my ex’s wanted kids+marriage. What they all had in common was being either from another country or state having come here for school, or first generation from an immigrant. It’s really hard to live here and most, not all, of them were usually with a bunch of roommates or being a nanny for a family or something in a small portion of a room they paid thousands for, so they come to my place by default. I don’t even have a house, so they’re not coming to my mansion or anything. I have friends whose girls were still living with their parents since it’s hard to move out here due to housing prices and rent. It’s very have and have not here, and hard, so if you at least aren’t a have not, there’s a lot to offer someone, if only to avoid having to make it on their own.
Another thing some, but not all, of them had in common is that they usually had something about them that would make them undatable to a lot of people where they’re from or around here which aren’t really bad things to me. One was 6’ tall like me so out here we’re basically 8’, one was from a country where having a tan and a nice ass meant you were a 2, one had giant tits and was from somewhere where they didn’t like big tits for whatever reason, etc. Some, but not all, were a little bit fixer-upper too, but nothing really that bad. Most people that get with me lose a little weight if they had it to begin with because I’m fit and active so I’m okay getting with someone that could stand to lose 15-30 or maybe more since anyone I date kind of becomes the super version of themselves anyway. All the girls I date are way more than 5 years younger than me, which is kind of the norm in other countries. Not that I wouldn’t date an older girl or don’t find them attractive, they’re just not open to dating in a reasonable manner.
I actually ‘date’ them too, which I’m told is less common now. We go out and do things and eat stuff, we don’t just Netflix and chill, although at times you will. Most people here just meet up and fuck, so I’m Captain Romance for taking them somewhere. I’m also very smart and funny, but you don’t really need to be all that smart and funny, just funny enough and smart enough. If a girl likes you and you’re at least kind of funny then you’re funny enough.
I’m not the only one doing what I do out here. One friend just lives in a studio he rents and does the same thing. He’s kind of short and I’d say just past being ugly and dresses poorly and he’s pretty weird but he’s athletic and his GF’s a strong 9. I have no idea why she likes him but it’s normal. He acknowledges he doesn’t know either. Just how it is here. He’s not white but he’s a legit white supremacist.
You def sound higher on the scale for physical attractiveness and even overall attractiveness as a guy scale than me. I've let my body go here a little the last two years. I just haven't got enough benefit from the effort I put in but I think at my peak, it sounds like I wouldn't be close to you. I've never been buff but I've had a decent physique. I'm smaller as a guy though. My limbs and bones are small so I never come off "big". I think my best weight has been 165 pounds and 5'10". Size 30 waist. I'm sitting at about a 31 waist now and probably around same weight. My size has never really been an attractor like for you.
I wish I could have warned you about the master's degree thing. Women going to school is a huge problem for failing relationships. My longest relationship was great until she decided to go back to school for law. Then it all fell apart. I see this theme again and again. Women going to school is a huge red flag for a relationship. These days I prefer women without post secondary and with 0 plans to ever go back to school. I find education/career in women is a huge detractor for relationships.
I've mostly lived in the mid-west areas. It's more "conservative" but that comes with its own share of problems. I'm currently living in a town of 30,000 people. I'm not exaggerating but almost every 20yo girl who wants marriage is already married or engaged to her HS sweetheart. If she's in her 20s-30s and single it's because she has someone else's kids. I moved her for significantly more money but I was hoping maybe there would be some decent small town girls. I underestimated how impossible it is for someone who wasn't born and raised in the community to meet single girls here though. I'll probably be here a couple years then move to I think my 9th city I will have lived in. Still, while big cities have more available single women, it doesn't solve the problem of big cities. Most of the women want equal 50/50 relationships where they're working 9-5 jobs and all that stuff. You sound like perhaps you haven't quite come to the conclusion that I have regarding that. Careers shape women's personalities and not in a good way. What may have seemed like a good quality girl when she was young and in school or 1-2 years out of school can quickly turn into those 30yo monstrosities you so know exist and career is often how that happens to women. The more career ambitious the woman, the worse her personality tends to develop. The fact major corporations are rolling the red carpet out for anyone with a vagina is a huge ego boost to women but these women are actually underserving of the roles which puts a strain on relationships because women get an inflated sense of their competence and intelligence which leads to conflict in relationships if they want everything 50/50 and don't listen to the men in the relationships.
Smaller towns at least still aren't quite dominated by the same corps that dominate big cities so there's less of the modern affirmative action diversity and inclusion bullshit so women aren't entirely propped up with inflated egos yet but then the counterpoint is unless you were fucking her in high school, she's already going to be married or used up with a kid by the time she blips on your radar.
For me, it just seems like a hopeless situation. My current strategy is just save some money and then go to Costa Rica in 10 years. Buy a bunch of hookers and blow and hope I die of a heart attack before I run out of money.
Haha. I know a lot of guys that had trouble here that clean up in Central and South America and the Ukraine. One guy that was like a low 4 here got with a 9-10 in the Ukraine. He’s legit ugly and I think he’s dumb and annoying and he’s not rich but maybe by their standards he’s a god. Met a friend of his not long ago that does the same thing, and he’s maybe 1 point higher than him but he’s also an ugly tweaky fuck up. Sometimes you can meet girls out there that look like super models and are with some family selling goats or something. It is easier to get girls abroad, or do what I often do and get the broads from abroad here. If you’re from America you resemble things they see in movies and talk like ‘people from the movies’.
For you a new location probably would be the best idea. I’ve dated girls of most colors and sizes but Asian girls like white guys and it’s easy to out compete Asian guys out here since most are scrawny techie types, so I’m in an advantageous position. I know my market. Once one of them gets over 5’ 8” her dating pool is basically me, and she feels like she’s dating Captain America so she’s happy too. For other races it’s not much different since if they’re more conservative and come to the most leftist place on the planet, there aren’t that many buffer guys. Based on your given stats I’m bigger than you are but I’ve been not much bigger than you are and still did what I do just fine and maybe even better. People tend to assume I weigh a lot more than I do.
Girls I’ve dated vary, but most are STEM types that got some job that resembles accountant, or nurse types. A lot of them like the idea of working but since it’s rough here for many, they mostly want to be able to check out of that and have the option to only work if they want to. One was crazy rich and actually wanted me to be the stay at home dad, and I regret turning that down. Even had a lawyer that wanted to check out and make babies since she hated it.