1: Most lesbians who try to look like men usually come from a broken home where either the man wasn't present, the man was present but was abusive, or the man was neglectful. In some ways, they believe that imitating a man is a just compensation for not having a proper male role-model in their life, or as a way to become the man they always wanted in their life. In short, these people are typically really messed up.

Interesting observation. A close business colleague (works in a closely associated business) and a personal friend is butch lesbian. Actually, I'm not sure butch is the right term...she's not one of the fugly fat biker types. Short hair, skinny as fuck, etc, Maybe she would have been a "boi" when younger, I don't know. She's clearly the masculine in her relationship. Anyway, I only recently found out that she was adopted, her adoptive parents were fucked up, etc. She recently in her 50s got in touch with her birth parents. She loves them, says they're great people, has been totally accepted by them, and now goes on family holidays with them, etc., but the only thing is--they voted for Trump, lol. She's been having to come to terms with some shit, it's funny. But yeah, the abuse / missing male role model part is real.

I've always figured if there is a "real" lesbian it's the butch types. The femme ones seem to flip flop a lot and just can't make up their minds :-P