Trying to find the image of a FTM who came face-to-face with reality that being a dude fucking sucks and how they're experiencing stuff like getting rejected, not being complimented, etc. If anyone has it saved, please send me the link.
Edit: Found it, it's this one: https://imgur.com/WigM9rL
I assume you're not refering to Norah Vincent's "Self-Made Man" book, because she wasen't bitching against men and patriarchy for her struggle trying to seduce women or discovering males playing bowling aren't actually badmouthing their wives the whole time.
I can't find the gem of the story about the lesbian "transitioning" to discover male privilege dosen't exist while lamenting losing her female privileges.
Stuff like when she could get mistaken for a guy, nobody carrrying her bags for her at the train station because she packed too much stuff for her capacities.
I wonder how she could not have a moment of self-awareness re-reading that part of her article and realize it was quintessencially womanly of her and that. That while female privilege is very much a thing throughout society, male privilege rarely exists.
Usually it's feminists mistaking merit or nepotism + their jealous and female in-group bias when they see a man doing well, and reframing that as an injustice that demands reparations to their exclusive benefit.
It's funny. Men KNOW they do not understand women, but for some reason, women think they understand man.
They don't.
I've seen this for years about women being "solipsistic". I don't think that's what's going on, rather they are like children, in the sense that children think their needs should just be magically met. "Needs" becomes "getting her way" as an adult and trying to get people to do it, by hook or by crook, and rationalizing (pathologizing as you say) when she doesn't get it. A sort of child like narcissism. She knows you exist, she just doesn't think it's (as) important. There's more of an evil to that too, not seeing the value in others and their feelings. It's like Florence Nightingale said "Women have no sympathy".
No, though I know of what she wrote.
I remember the write-up specifically discussing how she felt getting rejected at a bar and never receiving a single compliment after she transitioned, but I can't find the damned thing anywhere.