This is something you see often nowadays, especially on social media. Activists get some controversial policy approved, or censor some already-existing content. Yet if you protest it, you get the "dude why do you care" fence-sitters. They'll tell you that it doesn't matter that much and that both sides are silly anyway. Often these people are in complete support of said policy/censorship, but if you point it out they'll just tell you that those extremists don't represent them (because they're the enlightened "centrists", of course), and you get nowhere.
I feel like this is a big problem. How do you deal with this?
My opinion? If someone is saying this then their actual opinions disagree with whatever the prevailing opinion is and don't want to say it. I use this very thing with family and such when the battle is not worth it.
It's not totally wrong too, both sides are wrong, but anyone that knows my actual positions know they are much closer to one side than the other.