Since it is relevant, I am 40 years old and black. I have a very large extended family and pretty much all of my cousins have drunk the "racism is everywhere" kool-aid and especially this past year. I have gotten into plenty of arguments with them and I finally realized it was just pointless. As well as with some friends. I think I have gone over police statistics, actual crime stats, and the world history of slavery so many times that I talk about it in my sleep but it is pointless. One of my cousins was talking about reparations and got mad when I asked him if he was going to hold the African leaders who sold our ancestors to the Europeans accountable or if he is so anti-slavery why doesn't he donate to organizations who fight modern day slavery instead of obsessing over slavery that ended over 150 years ago.
A white friend of mine has turned super woke since George Floyd and he got really pissed when I told him that he was so brave to condemn racism and thanked him because I didn't realize I was oppressed until I read his facebook posts. He then told me that he couldn't believe I would work so hard against my own people. I had a good laugh about that one, although being called a white supremacist was the best laugh, followed by when my relatives and I did our DNA/Ancestry test. I am about 20% European and also have a little Native American and Asian. One of my more militant cousins told me that i may have brown skin, but I inherited a "white personality" from my white ancestors.
Sadly in my early teens I went through a brief "everything is racism" period so I can understand how that sucks you in, plus I think it is human nature to a degree to want to be a victim about something. I remember complaining to my mom about my school not having any black history lessons and she told me that I was free to pick up a book and read on my own. My mother was big on reading and my parents taught me to learn about your culture/history and then learn about other cultures. That was eye opening because it was then I learned that every race/ethnic group has been oppressed or has been oppressors and that land conquest was as old as time along with slavery. Another thing was the fact that my grandfather never had any sort of grudge along with my other elderly relatives so I felt stupid and realized that if you look for racism everywhere you will find it.
Honestly if I had billions of dollars my reparation plan would be to buy land in any non-white majority country of their choosing and ship everyone of any race who can't shut up about how evil America and the west are. America is not a perfect country but to act like zero progress has been made (I actually heard a lady say that very little in regards to race relations has changed since 1776) really pisses me off. A little research will show anyone that if you are born in a western country you are in the world privilege group.
Sorry for the long post, but I decided from now on I can't talk to people who have that victim mindset or can't shut up about racism.
I commend you for fighting the good fight. It's hard for "us white folk" to say anything that would resonate with the woke crowd. I've lost all my black friends from high school as they all think I'm apart of the KKK now after I called a friend out who was calling white people racist and holding down the black people. My message to him was basically: "You and I went to the same high school, you grew up in the better part of town (richer), and you went onto a great university for FREE due to the levels of melanin in your skin. You went on to get 2 masters degrees. You now live in the basement of your parents home, selling drugs, doing drugs, and fucking married chicks (side note: he fucked and "stole" a friends wife, and now they smoke meth in front of my friends kids and laugh about it). But you think the system is racist and holds you down and say I have privilege...my success is due to the color of my skin. I didn't realize that my success wasn't because I worked throughout my undergrad years, unlike you, so I could pay for undergrad upfront since white males don't qualify for 95% of the grants and scholarships (went to a lower end uni...at the time was about $3k/semester - about 15 years ago). I also started an online business while in undergrad and working the job that paid for my school. I then went on to grad school, taking out loans, and then paying them all back after about 4 years out of grad school. I got my doctorate and built a practice, my online business doing well (tell me, can you tell someone's skin color of the owner of a website when you go to it?), bought a home, and have 2 kids now. All my successes are due to my color and not my work ethic and sleepless nights. K."
Got blocked by him and removed by almost all the black people I went to high school with after that post on fb. I hate the victim card. Growing up, my family was poor. Not due to lack of work ethic, no! Dad worked 80 hour weeks to pay the medical bills bc my youngest brother was diagnosed with leukemia 2-3 months old (he's still with us and doing great btw!). It wasn't until I got to undergrad that my family started doing well. Dad started his own business while still working those long hours with the company he was with until it got to the point where he couldn't do both and had to quit his job. The stress that man went through at that time...I can remember like yesterday. He had saved enough where if the businesses didn't make any money, he knew he would have to go back to work after 2 years. Thankfully, his hard work ethic paid off and he ended up doing really well years after I moved out of the house and continues to do well. So I've seen, first hand, what it takes to build the life you want for you and your family. It isn't playing the victim card. Never will be.
I’m sorry to hear that. Yea I saw some friends and relatives start acting like they were so oppressed. Some got mad when I gave actual police stats. The real kicker was when I asked them why they didn’t get angry about the many kids in the inner city gunnned down. I’m all for punishing bad cops but the narrative around cops right now is very dangerous