Let's have a real talk here for a second, I'll make it short and sweet:
Aside from the "don't focus on cultural Marxism, focus on ethics" crowd, we got idiots who gobble and follow shit like "kill your enemies with kindness" shit that started by a cowardly-ass pussy named Action Points. You remember him? I'm sure you don't, because he "went on a break" and now back doing content because reasons.
Ask the tradcucks. Actually, ask the male feminists, the tradcucks will just say "because God says we should marry".
You're making a good point though, regardless of who you think is leading the left's decision making, there's no reason to expect the high road to work. There doesn't seem to be a win condition for them that isn't complete subjugation - Biden's win didn't calm them down at all.
Our mistake is to consider our opposition in the way we believe they consider us. They don't think we're just misguided or even outright wrong, they think we are subhuman and that won't change.
Ostracization is all we have left to use against them.
How do you explain the male politicians, CEOs, leaders of NGOs, etc.? Please, don't do the feminist thing and claim they are only poor, mislead victims.
Blackmail and greed.
Most of them stand to benefit from a corporate puppet leader, so they enter the pact. However, the blackmail of destroying their company with the power positions acquired keeps them in.
That's not to mention ReeeeeeeToo and whatever Ghislaine Maxwell is hiding.
Seriously, you are exactly like a feminist, only in reverse directions. A man who is on the left does not have your best interest in his mind just because you are also a man. Convincing yourself about that won't make your life better or safer, you will just get duped the same while you feel it's somehow better.
I'm under no illusion of benevolence. Their greed drives them to support this, knowing the monetary policy will benefit them.