I spent 20 fucking years like that. A bad relationship led to a gap in employment, which led to a lot of really bad bullshit.
I was just lucky enough to meet someone coming from the same sort of abuse-boat as I was just escaping, and we ditched our garbage together, we're still in the act of flying right, but at least we have a few thousand between us now.
I repent about 90% of my entire life (beyond and separate from the curse of being born human), and simply wish to look forward to whatever bullshit is about to hit.
If I had my time back, I'd join the army on my 18th birthday, gulf war notwithstanding.
A bad relationship led to a gap in employment, which led to a lot of really bad bullshit.
This is one of the most dangerous things that nobody gets told. I didn't realize just how bad a gap in employment is for literally any job whatsoever. I learned the hardway, looking for a job which I would be qualified for, and it was a disaster. It was such a disaster, that I got offers from department heads, and HR would take one look at my resume and I'd never hear from anyone again.
Then I included a job working with my family for the year that I was searching in my resume.
I got 6 job offers in a week.
Is there a word for happy-angry? I was definitely that.
If I had my time back, I'd join the army on my 18th birthday, gulf war notwithstanding.
This is why I would rarely discourage people from the military. It seems to be (and has been since the New Model Army in the 1600's), the most effective social mobility program on Earth. If I had stayed military, I'd probably be way better off now than I am today, but I did want to go to college. It didn't go so hot. I don't regret it except for the cost and wasted time, but I plan on working what I learned into a career through a more convoluted route. However, if someone's trying to get out of a bad way, going military has rarely been a bad option for them.
It's only bad for people who are so terrible with authority that they get themselves in a shit load of trouble, or if they get stuck in a really bad unit and start doing toxic things to themselves.
:/ A lot of what I was taught was too old, I think. "Volunteer, it'll look good on a resume". Ha. Ask me about "responsibilty creep". I just got flagged as a chump who'll work for free ...
I was in army cadets as a teenager, at least I got some "basic" training; but I do remmeber each year we'd lose more than half of a new crop of recruits because they didn't like being yelled at and told what to do. For some reason, people confuse military cadets with scouts. Our cadets are part of the DND military structure.
I spent 20 fucking years like that. A bad relationship led to a gap in employment, which led to a lot of really bad bullshit.
I was just lucky enough to meet someone coming from the same sort of abuse-boat as I was just escaping, and we ditched our garbage together, we're still in the act of flying right, but at least we have a few thousand between us now.
I repent about 90% of my entire life (beyond and separate from the curse of being born human), and simply wish to look forward to whatever bullshit is about to hit.
If I had my time back, I'd join the army on my 18th birthday, gulf war notwithstanding.
This is one of the most dangerous things that nobody gets told. I didn't realize just how bad a gap in employment is for literally any job whatsoever. I learned the hardway, looking for a job which I would be qualified for, and it was a disaster. It was such a disaster, that I got offers from department heads, and HR would take one look at my resume and I'd never hear from anyone again.
Then I included a job working with my family for the year that I was searching in my resume.
I got 6 job offers in a week.
Is there a word for happy-angry? I was definitely that.
This is why I would rarely discourage people from the military. It seems to be (and has been since the New Model Army in the 1600's), the most effective social mobility program on Earth. If I had stayed military, I'd probably be way better off now than I am today, but I did want to go to college. It didn't go so hot. I don't regret it except for the cost and wasted time, but I plan on working what I learned into a career through a more convoluted route. However, if someone's trying to get out of a bad way, going military has rarely been a bad option for them.
It's only bad for people who are so terrible with authority that they get themselves in a shit load of trouble, or if they get stuck in a really bad unit and start doing toxic things to themselves.
:/ A lot of what I was taught was too old, I think. "Volunteer, it'll look good on a resume". Ha. Ask me about "responsibilty creep". I just got flagged as a chump who'll work for free ...
I was in army cadets as a teenager, at least I got some "basic" training; but I do remmeber each year we'd lose more than half of a new crop of recruits because they didn't like being yelled at and told what to do. For some reason, people confuse military cadets with scouts. Our cadets are part of the DND military structure.