time to get personal.... my wife left me (for a single day) about a month back, packed up the kids (8 and 5) and their toys while I was at work, called me while i was on my way home and told me she was leaving me "were just too different, your too angry at the world and our kids dont feel safe around you" .....that very same night she came back home and talked with me, saying she immediately regretted it and admitted it was an overreaction.
Ive never hit my children (despite being wailed on by my own parents growing up) we agreed early in the relationship before we had kids that smacking would be off the table... so I resort to shouting / yelling (honestly what else am I meant to do to prevent my children turning into shitheads) apparently THAT in conjunction with my love for conspiracy theories, watching alternative media like youtubers to get world news instead of MSM and the Victorian lockdowns was apparently too much for her and she took it out on me. My conspiratorial mind has a sneaking suspicion that it has something to do with her hardcore feminist mother because this all happened on the very same day she returned to work (they work together) after not seeing her in 9 months.
What struck me was that i wasnt upset that she left... I was upset that she took my fucking kids, that hurt more than anything ive ever felt, to see their rooms empty like that hollowed me out and for the first time in my life i had felt like id made a huge mistake...
A month on and im still reeling from her over the top temper tantrum and she doesnt even seem bothered... I think im in trouble....
I agree the mother is the issue, but trying to break contact between them is an ill-fated plan.
I think the conspiracy excuse is just that, an excuse. It isn't actually part of the motive.
Definitely agree with both these lines. Shes very close with her mother (to the point of controlling) because her father left when she was 13 so her distrust of men comes from 2 angles, her relationship with her father and the overbearing nature of her feminist mother... the second was fine for the first 7 years, but since her mothers caught wind of my political leanings and internet activities I feel like a targeted enemy... hopefully its just my paranoia
time to get personal.... my wife left me (for a single day) about a month back, packed up the kids (8 and 5) and their toys while I was at work, called me while i was on my way home and told me she was leaving me "were just too different, your too angry at the world and our kids dont feel safe around you" .....that very same night she came back home and talked with me, saying she immediately regretted it and admitted it was an overreaction.
Ive never hit my children (despite being wailed on by my own parents growing up) we agreed early in the relationship before we had kids that smacking would be off the table... so I resort to shouting / yelling (honestly what else am I meant to do to prevent my children turning into shitheads) apparently THAT in conjunction with my love for conspiracy theories, watching alternative media like youtubers to get world news instead of MSM and the Victorian lockdowns was apparently too much for her and she took it out on me. My conspiratorial mind has a sneaking suspicion that it has something to do with her hardcore feminist mother because this all happened on the very same day she returned to work (they work together) after not seeing her in 9 months.
What struck me was that i wasnt upset that she left... I was upset that she took my fucking kids, that hurt more than anything ive ever felt, to see their rooms empty like that hollowed me out and for the first time in my life i had felt like id made a huge mistake...
A month on and im still reeling from her over the top temper tantrum and she doesnt even seem bothered... I think im in trouble....
Definitely agree with both these lines. Shes very close with her mother (to the point of controlling) because her father left when she was 13 so her distrust of men comes from 2 angles, her relationship with her father and the overbearing nature of her feminist mother... the second was fine for the first 7 years, but since her mothers caught wind of my political leanings and internet activities I feel like a targeted enemy... hopefully its just my paranoia