Hard disagree. The problem isn't that men are marrying women who plan to do this to them. The problem is that EVERY women can do this. At any moment, on a whim, risking nothing.
When a man and woman get married in the Western world, they are making two very different levels of commitment. The woman is committing to be married to this man for as long as it pleases her to do so. The man is committing to being financially beholden to this woman for as long as SHE likes.
If, at any point for the rest of their lives, she decides that she would be happier if she didn't have to look at your fucking face every day, she can demand a divorce. At the end of which, she'll get half of everything you've built so far, plus a monthly salary (for having allowed you to be married to her in the first place).
If there are kids, she gets the kids (don't worry though, you still get to pay for the kids. You don't get to raise them, but you get to pay for them).
If there's a house, she gets the house (I mean, she's got the kids, she has to have the house. Right?).
If there's a car, she gets the car (how else is she gonna transport the kids to and from the house?).
If there's a dog, she gets the fucking dog (she never even liked that dog).
IF, on the other hand, you decide, at any point, that you are soul-crushingly unhappy, and that you're gonna kill yourself if you don't get away from this woman, then you can demand a divorce. At the end of which, she'll get half of everything you've built so far, plus a monthly salary, plus the kids, the child support, the house, the car, and the fucking dog.
The problem here isn't that more and more men are behaving as though marriage is a truly terrible deal for them, it's that marriage is a truly terrible deal for men.
No matter how wonderful this woman might be, this deal doesn't get any better.
Hard disagree. The problem isn't that men are marrying women who plan to do this to them. The problem is that EVERY women can do this. At any moment, on a whim, risking nothing.
When a man and woman get married in the Western world, they are making two very different levels of commitment. The woman is committing to be married to this man for as long as it pleases her to do so. The man is committing to being financially beholden to this woman for as long as SHE likes.
If, at any point for the rest of their lives, she decides that she would be happier if she didn't have to look at your fucking face every day, she can demand a divorce. At the end of which, she'll get half of everything you've built so far, plus a monthly salary (for having allowed you to be married to her in the first place).
If there are kids, she gets the kids (don't worry though, you still get to pay for the kids. You don't get to raise them, but you get to pay for them).
If there's a house, she gets the house (I mean, she's got the kids, she has to have the house. Right?).
If there's a car, she gets the car (how else is she gonna transport the kids to and from the house?).
If there's a dog, she gets the fucking dog (she never even liked that dog).
IF, on the other hand, you decide, at any point, that you are soul-crushingly unhappy, and that you're gonna kill yourself if you don't get away from this woman, then you can demand a divorce. At the end of which, she'll get half of everything you've built so far, plus a monthly salary, plus the kids, the child support, the house, the car, and the fucking dog.
The problem here isn't that more and more men are behaving as though marriage is a truly terrible deal for them, it's that marriage is a truly terrible deal for men.
No matter how wonderful this woman might be, this deal doesn't get any better.