Yes. They need to accept that being gay simply isn't normal. And just like how the default mode of a man without socialization/civilization is that of a brute, being gay comes with some proclivities that they need to keep control of (for men in particular it's exceptionally easy to acquire sex from other men, so they're almost all severe man whores).

Also the fictional characters aside, the real people who like this sort of thing don't realize just how utterly uninteresting all of this gay shit is. It's like how teenage girls think claiming bisexuality or whatever other vogue sexuality makes them more interesting somehow. It doesn't. But they don't care, they just want their validation from <Corporation>. It's demented.

And finally all of this has probably damaged the viability of gay characters in not-shitty media. Once we get past this, if someone wants to include a gay character in their work, as soon as it comes out that they're gay everybody who's not an intersectionalist fool is just going to roll their eyes and assume the worst.