No matter how much we say "they" - remember, it's not even close to all women, nor even a majority. It is a majority of the loud ones who complain non stop though, and a large majority of the immature women, or the mentally ill women.

When I talk to just every day women around me, friends or from work - none of them even remotely think this stuff. They know it can happen, and they'll tell you stories that have happened to them and the stories I get are all "no, that guy was a dumb ass so I didn't date him again and I pulled away when he tried to kiss me at the end" It's never "I thought I'd die!"

Ironically enough, it's not the meeting guys for dates that seems to make my female friends scared - it's the going home after like 8-9PM that worries them. None has ever complained of anything happening, just a strong feeling of being nervous/anxious. Which is understandable, but in my anecdotal experiences, they're significantly more uncomfortable with that (if they're not driving - I live in a major city with good public transport) than they are with the potential date.