but every single female character save one is absolutely insufferable from the very beginning and only gets worse

Which one, was it Min?

never learning a single lesson, never getting comeuppance, never being humbled or have to face a single consequence for their actions

This changes a lot near the end where mistakes not only come back and fuck over a lot of characters but it outright kills quite a few of them who didn't bother listening to the repeated warnings.

The only woman that isn't pure agony to have to listen to is the famous warrior chick from the past who died and got transported to the future. And she basically just acts like one of the guys. Rand should have just killed the three cunts that were constantly needling him and ridden off into the sunset with her instead.

Ah, it was Birgitte. Yeah, that doesn't end well because of fuckups from one of the three in Rand's harem who is so outright stupid she should be locked away to avoid causing injury, death, and worse to herself and others. Unfortunately she isn't so all those things happen several times over.