Read a tweet today about why Gen Z men are not "manning up" and cold approaching women. It's obviously the fear of getting your life ruined, not the fear of rejection.
This is established fact for virtually anyone who's ever thought about the subject (besides NPCs).
But my thought is even if you somehow took away the risk of ruining your life, there are a lot of problems with expecting men to find relationships by walking into the buzzsaw of cold approaches over and over. First of all, it kind of hurts to get turned down based on your physical appearance, and the appearance of 80% of men is inadequate on its own. You can make up for that with banter and flirting. But is it realistic to expect every man, or even most men, to develop the level of game needed to pick up girls off the street?
Second, most attractive women you see on the street already have a boyfriend. Not a meme boyfriend, an actual dude. Now it is true that if you're Timothee Chalamet you can probably turn half of those women into cheating hoes, but why would you want to given that you're going for a serious relationship? In the end it's just very awkward for both parties to go through the script again and again. "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." [forced smile] "Oh, my bad sorry"
In the past women were somewhat more likely to take cold approaches as a compliment. Disclaimer: somewhat more likely. Today the infinite choice of online dating has more than filled women's thirst to be admired, so getting approached in public mostly makes them annoyed for the same reason that most people prefer to be emailed rather than called.
There is a way for guys who aren't male models to be attractive to women: get to know them in a mutual community so their appreciation of your positive features overcomes the "ick" and "he's not a kpop boy band member" factors that they initially notice. People can also figure out who's in a relationship and who's looking without embarrassing themselves. This form of courtship, coincidentally, has been attacked by each successive sexual revolution.
I'm generalizing in several places, but I doubt that most relationships are going to happen through cold approach in a healthy society, whether that's in person or on a Jewish dating app.
That's kind of where PUA was wrong and some of TRP started looking into evolutionary psychology and other pieces of the female puzzle.
The reality is every male and female has an SMV but there's a filter based on perception. The problem now is that women's expectations are coddled that if a man is equal or lesser to her own perceived SMV, she'll be disgusted that the cretin even had the balls to approach her. Women will typically chase men who are two points above themselves and I sincerely believe there's no workaround for that unless she's past The Wall (meaning past her genetic prime). You can try to improve yourself to increase your SMV through personality or other changes, but there's an upper limit to that based on genetics and intelligence. So men have to play a different game now or just not play at all.
I'm inclined to agree, but depending on the community you share mutual interest in, you might drop too far below one's own SMV in terms of options. There's also the danger of being too similar to one another that the relationship could bore quickly.
One of the many pieces where Rollo is correct is on the idea of non-polar attraction, which is something I saw in my parents. Have a few common or shared interests with the woman, but be different enough that the relationship can still have a long spark in it, and not so different that you're both incompatible.
Not sure if this is an example you're thinking of, but hypernerd stuff Magic the Gathering comes to mind. There are sweet stories of a boy and girl meeting in WoW guilds and marrying, but anyone going to look for a wife in those settings is quixotic.
I totally agree with this. I've seen girls light up and completely change their attitude when they find out a guy is into something they really like.
Yeah I was maybe being a bit hyperbolic about it, but that's in the ballpark of what I was imagining