I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
It's even worse. You're also most likely going to have to deal with the kid's father being in your life. And his parents if they want to be involved in their grandchild's life.
I have friend going through this nightmare salad spinner of fuck.
I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
It's even worse. You're also most likely going to have to deal with the kid's father being in your life. And his parents if they want to be involved in their grandchild's life.
I have friend going through this nightmare salad spinner of fuck.