I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
Sometimes you can love a kid that isn’t yours. My friend’s son years ago. I would have took him in if it was absolutely necessary (not likely). I also love my niece who’s in-law acquired and would take her in with my wife if necessary.
It's not for me, but I think it's respectable if you're not responsible for the kid's mother as well. One of the major the problems with getting involved with a single mother is that she's the head of the family, not you. That leaves you with all of the responsibility and none of the authority. Adopting an orphan pairs the responsibility with authority and avoids the issue. I'd never call a man in this situation a cuck if the kid's mother was out of the picture.
I would if I had the time and resources look after an orphan but WOULDN'T in most circumstances be a stepdad.
Why? If I became a stepdad, I'm dealing with a single mother that might've drove that man out so already a toxic influence on that kid and be planning to drive me out too after draining me. Orphan literally has no one so I'd rather try and help raise them with the sane part of my family than let the state mold them into their toy.
Only exception to being a stepdad is if she's a widow and 100% NOT responsible for in any way his death. Those ones could just be good wife/mother material but fate went fuck you so that's my exception.
Sometimes you can love a kid that isn’t yours. My friend’s son years ago. I would have took him in if it was absolutely necessary (not likely). I also love my niece who’s in-law acquired and would take her in with my wife if necessary.
It's not for me, but I think it's respectable if you're not responsible for the kid's mother as well. One of the major the problems with getting involved with a single mother is that she's the head of the family, not you. That leaves you with all of the responsibility and none of the authority. Adopting an orphan pairs the responsibility with authority and avoids the issue. I'd never call a man in this situation a cuck if the kid's mother was out of the picture.