yes I agree there has to be a balancig act. no one deserves to be fucked in life just due to unfortunate birth circumstances.

i have no issues with things like a strong public education system that would raise the "minimum opportunity level for everyone". though that is emphatically not "equal opportunity", but "baseline opportunity". and we must be accepting of people refusing to take it. "here is a helping hand. ah you actually want to drown? well, suit yourself. kthxbai.". no point wasting resources on someone actively sabotaging the opportunity he is being given.

ultimately i'm a firm believer, that as long as someone is not being actively hampered by (lets be charitable) ill advised social engineering, people eventually reach the level in society their genetics permit.