That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it. --You are here.
Don't blame yourself. Blame the people doing this.
No. This line of thinking is poison.
Don't blame yourself. Blame the people doing this.