It seems they deliberately conflate "wihich qualities do you / would you appreciate in a male you already decided you want to fuck with "which qualities made you interested in the first place".
Right. "Kindness, humour and loyalty" are qualities they might wish Chad had, but they'll still choose the good looking guy who lacks those qualities over an average looking guy who has them. Which means the incels (and the rest of the Manosphere) are correct that physical features trump everything. They're not overestimating or underestimating anything: They're accurately describing women's mate choices.
Right. "Kindness, humour and loyalty" are qualities they might wish Chad had, but they'll still choose the good looking guy who lacks those qualities over an average looking guy who has them. Which means the incels (and the rest of the Manosphere) are correct that physical features trump everything. They're not overestimating or underestimating anything: They're accurately describing women's mate choices.