In short: Where should I go to develop genuine connections with good people?
Why post this in KIA2? Well, I'm lost, maybe this is the wrong place for this discussion. I'm this mix of a Christian who likes games, VR, anime, etc., and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere.
If I go to Japan, even tho I'm fluent, I'll never be a native Japanese citizen, and where are the wise amongst their people? The older generation is so quick to condemn; the younger generation, picking up on western leftism it seems.
If I go to church, most Christians / people in general haven't actually developed the wisdom Christianity could provide them with, and may not have anything to do with JP/games/anime/VR.
If I go to VRChat, even in the relatively better communities I find narcissistic feminist women, furries, leftists, etc. are a dime a dozen. As socialites, there are a rare few who have gained some wisdom, but as with other communities I've seen, few and far between.
If I go take a dance class, I find older, conservative men and women, a younger narcissistic feminist woman (but hey, at least I can connect with those women on games and anime...), a younger Christian woman raised in a broken family, lacked self-esteem and got plastic surgery and breast implants because of it... Seems maybe some other homeschooled girls out there, too...? (Where's the younger men? Playing video games I guess? XD)
If I go to an anime or game convention, well now you have all this mask and vaccine stuff and it just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
So, it seems to me that the wise are few and far between wherever you go, and just about any place people gather and like games/anime/VR is captured by leftism. So where am I supposed to go?
I feel like I need to create my own community, because the community I'm looking for just doesn't exist. I've written a 3D engine from scratch in Vulkan for VR that can do online multiplayer, maybe I'll just try and setup a little community there+Discord+Twitter+Twitch...? I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a community leader, but if I don't do it, I'm not sure who will.
You seek an all-in-one solution, but I don't think such a thing already exists. You're looking for a community of "you"s, a clonedom somewhere out there. And that simply isn't happening.
"The wise are few and far between", for sure, yeah, so... Go far between. Make one friend at church, one at the discoteka, one at the local War40k gaming hole... Wanna know a secret? People are pretty apathetic, in general, to the hobbies of others. To your church friend you're the friend who also does dance lessons. To the war-gamer, you're the one who bible-thumps on his off-hours. To the dancer, you got into it because of the Princess Tutu anime, or something. But at the end of the interaction... None of them care.
I've got a good friend, who does SCA fighting. I've got no interest in it. We're still good friends. I've got another friend who embodies the meme "my life is a gym", he'll lift weights while we chill watching anime streams, dude love the shonen work-hard-get-stronger storylines.
Your friends do not need to be clones of you. And they need not all come from the same location.