In short: Where should I go to develop genuine connections with good people?
Why post this in KIA2? Well, I'm lost, maybe this is the wrong place for this discussion. I'm this mix of a Christian who likes games, VR, anime, etc., and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere.
If I go to Japan, even tho I'm fluent, I'll never be a native Japanese citizen, and where are the wise amongst their people? The older generation is so quick to condemn; the younger generation, picking up on western leftism it seems.
If I go to church, most Christians / people in general haven't actually developed the wisdom Christianity could provide them with, and may not have anything to do with JP/games/anime/VR.
If I go to VRChat, even in the relatively better communities I find narcissistic feminist women, furries, leftists, etc. are a dime a dozen. As socialites, there are a rare few who have gained some wisdom, but as with other communities I've seen, few and far between.
If I go take a dance class, I find older, conservative men and women, a younger narcissistic feminist woman (but hey, at least I can connect with those women on games and anime...), a younger Christian woman raised in a broken family, lacked self-esteem and got plastic surgery and breast implants because of it... Seems maybe some other homeschooled girls out there, too...? (Where's the younger men? Playing video games I guess? XD)
If I go to an anime or game convention, well now you have all this mask and vaccine stuff and it just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
So, it seems to me that the wise are few and far between wherever you go, and just about any place people gather and like games/anime/VR is captured by leftism. So where am I supposed to go?
I feel like I need to create my own community, because the community I'm looking for just doesn't exist. I've written a 3D engine from scratch in Vulkan for VR that can do online multiplayer, maybe I'll just try and setup a little community there+Discord+Twitter+Twitch...? I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a community leader, but if I don't do it, I'm not sure who will.
The first thing to do is be sure you are confident about yourself. That was big for me in my 20s, because as a kid I felt like a lot of people treated me like an oddity, like there was something wrong with me that needed to be fixed. Instead, I had to accept myself and I don't waste time with people who see me as some project. I think I heard this on a podcast recently, but these guys were saying that if you're happy and confident home alone by yourself, good things all follow from that. I very much operate like that.
Something else I notice, it seems you define yourself by anime/games/VR and that's fairly limiting. Maybe it's fine if my first paragraph holds true, but I don't think you are if you're posting like this here. My suggestion is to try other things and be sure you aren't defining yourself by a single hobby.
You mention church, dance class, I assume you have a job or some sort of business connections. Pick out receptive people that share your values and take up opportunities to build relationships outside of expecting they must know about anime and games. I'm not friends with raging leftists, because if I found one that was a carbon copy of my interests I wouldn't want to put up with their values. You're already interacting with people, things will come up. Take them up on it. One example of my own, some new friends at the time were talking about playing golf. I'd never played it. That turned into, "oh I have some old clubs you can use take them out to a driving range a couple times and come play with us." So I did. I'm shit at it still to this day. Because of what I said earlier though, it doesn't bother me, I own it. Sure, I try, but it's a little out of my aptitudes and I don't progress that well. If friends had a problem with a shit golfer, that's a red flag they aren't friends anyway, just walk away. I don't play golf more than a few times a year now, but it was an in to building relationships and I'm still friends with some of those people and not just for some golf. It worked because while we don't necessarily share the same hobbies, we share similar values.