In short: Where should I go to develop genuine connections with good people?
Why post this in KIA2? Well, I'm lost, maybe this is the wrong place for this discussion. I'm this mix of a Christian who likes games, VR, anime, etc., and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere.
If I go to Japan, even tho I'm fluent, I'll never be a native Japanese citizen, and where are the wise amongst their people? The older generation is so quick to condemn; the younger generation, picking up on western leftism it seems.
If I go to church, most Christians / people in general haven't actually developed the wisdom Christianity could provide them with, and may not have anything to do with JP/games/anime/VR.
If I go to VRChat, even in the relatively better communities I find narcissistic feminist women, furries, leftists, etc. are a dime a dozen. As socialites, there are a rare few who have gained some wisdom, but as with other communities I've seen, few and far between.
If I go take a dance class, I find older, conservative men and women, a younger narcissistic feminist woman (but hey, at least I can connect with those women on games and anime...), a younger Christian woman raised in a broken family, lacked self-esteem and got plastic surgery and breast implants because of it... Seems maybe some other homeschooled girls out there, too...? (Where's the younger men? Playing video games I guess? XD)
If I go to an anime or game convention, well now you have all this mask and vaccine stuff and it just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
So, it seems to me that the wise are few and far between wherever you go, and just about any place people gather and like games/anime/VR is captured by leftism. So where am I supposed to go?
I feel like I need to create my own community, because the community I'm looking for just doesn't exist. I've written a 3D engine from scratch in Vulkan for VR that can do online multiplayer, maybe I'll just try and setup a little community there+Discord+Twitter+Twitch...? I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a community leader, but if I don't do it, I'm not sure who will.
A lot of people have been having the same problem. I posted two threads quite a while back where people noted how hard it was to socialize and meet people.
I left Idaho to go live near family again. It just got too hard, too expensive, to live on my own. My job has gotten harder over the last couple years too. A lot of people who spent years here are getting up and leaving. Coworkers and I have had discussions about how hard it is too socialize now. Some younger than me have been telling me horror stories.
My old church group died when several members left for other states. Still keep tabs on them but not the same. Church got taken over by left wingers from California and turned into liberal "church.". Still haven't found one to replace it. Had a little local bar I used to go to in Idaho but the one I used to go to back in WA had all the locals leave as things kept getting more expensive. Still got friends I see every now and then but everyone is busy and the old days of hanging even once a month are long gone. Funnily, they complain if a lack of close friends too but nobody makes the effort anymore.
Form a company, recruit your co-workers and turn them into your 'friends' or else. ;)
You need to have a wife and kids. And then the 'friends' will arrive through play dates, schools, daycare and other stuff.
but how do you find a wife?
just have friends introduce you to their friends bruh.
If you really want a wife you could try your luck at a supermarket. Sounds dumb, until you realize that a lot of cashiers are down-on-their-luck immigrant women with traditional values looking for a knight in shining armor to rescue them from a life of mundanity. Of course, it depends on what nationality the immigrant woman is, both in terms of looks and outlook. ;)