In short: Where should I go to develop genuine connections with good people?
Why post this in KIA2? Well, I'm lost, maybe this is the wrong place for this discussion. I'm this mix of a Christian who likes games, VR, anime, etc., and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere.
If I go to Japan, even tho I'm fluent, I'll never be a native Japanese citizen, and where are the wise amongst their people? The older generation is so quick to condemn; the younger generation, picking up on western leftism it seems.
If I go to church, most Christians / people in general haven't actually developed the wisdom Christianity could provide them with, and may not have anything to do with JP/games/anime/VR.
If I go to VRChat, even in the relatively better communities I find narcissistic feminist women, furries, leftists, etc. are a dime a dozen. As socialites, there are a rare few who have gained some wisdom, but as with other communities I've seen, few and far between.
If I go take a dance class, I find older, conservative men and women, a younger narcissistic feminist woman (but hey, at least I can connect with those women on games and anime...), a younger Christian woman raised in a broken family, lacked self-esteem and got plastic surgery and breast implants because of it... Seems maybe some other homeschooled girls out there, too...? (Where's the younger men? Playing video games I guess? XD)
If I go to an anime or game convention, well now you have all this mask and vaccine stuff and it just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
So, it seems to me that the wise are few and far between wherever you go, and just about any place people gather and like games/anime/VR is captured by leftism. So where am I supposed to go?
I feel like I need to create my own community, because the community I'm looking for just doesn't exist. I've written a 3D engine from scratch in Vulkan for VR that can do online multiplayer, maybe I'll just try and setup a little community there+Discord+Twitter+Twitch...? I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a community leader, but if I don't do it, I'm not sure who will.
Honestly, its tough man. I'm in basically the same boat as you.
Its times like this that I'm thankful to have been blessed with siblings and born into a good, godly family, especially my little brother who also happens to share my interests in things like gaming, anime, etc, and childhood best friends that I'm still close with (though I don't talk to often these days because we're states apart) who I share a lot of interests with too.
There are things like compromises that might have to be made because its difficult to find people who are the same combination of things you are, especially the more seriously you take them. If you take your Christianity seriously, (which you should), its that much harder to find people who are the same way but don't just broadly condemn or sneer at entertainment media. Its not impossible to find people like you, but it could be difficult depending on your circumstances.
Or you could have different friends for different things. Gaming friends might not necessarily be the same as the people you go to church with or the people you work with, but if they're decent people its not something sinful to be friends with them (unless they're openly sinning or encouraging you towards sinful behavior). Obviously you shouldn't abandon common sense or anything if someone has a lot of red flags, but there are loving and good people everywhere.
Honestly, (if its feasible and reasonable) I think you should consider moving to an area where its likely to be at least somewhat conservative-leaning and having a churchgoing population (i.e. a southern state), but also near a college town or something so the population is young enough to appreciate the same hobby interests you do. That's probably your best bet for a happy overlap. I'm lucky enough to have moved to such an area myself about 2 years ago for school, but I've been... reticent about efforts to socialize and go to church properly and meet people. Still though, even though I haven't made many efforts to make friends, somehow friendships have still happened in my life here.
You can also create your own communities of course, but just be aware that most online friends aren't worth shit. I have about... 2, maybe 3 online friends that I believe I can trust with almost anything and vice-versa and actually consider them true friends, and that's over about 8 years and a lot of online friendships I've regretted having. Doesn't mean all of them are of course, just be aware that IRL is very different from online.
You sound similar to me so I'm guessing you're in your mid to late 20s or something, there's a lot more options for you than you think, but you'll probably have to get out there and put in the legwork. In my case I'm going to a kind of grad school... but I really need to put in more effort to get more connections honestly. There's a lot of people who are interested in things like anime/games at the place I'm attending but I'm like "ehh... I don't feel like it" is the problem. Still though, somehow I've made some friends and acquaintances in spite of that.
Moreover, you shouldn't get hung up on things like statistics, likelihoods and trying to "beat the spread" when it comes to real life and making friends. Yeah, it might be difficult, but good friends don't come easy. Just try to stick to good places. Also, most importantly, you should pray often and earnestly and have faith that God will work in your life and surround you with good people. You should make the effort of course, but yeah. Those're my suggestions at any rate. I wish you the best man.