In short: Where should I go to develop genuine connections with good people?
Why post this in KIA2? Well, I'm lost, maybe this is the wrong place for this discussion. I'm this mix of a Christian who likes games, VR, anime, etc., and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere.
If I go to Japan, even tho I'm fluent, I'll never be a native Japanese citizen, and where are the wise amongst their people? The older generation is so quick to condemn; the younger generation, picking up on western leftism it seems.
If I go to church, most Christians / people in general haven't actually developed the wisdom Christianity could provide them with, and may not have anything to do with JP/games/anime/VR.
If I go to VRChat, even in the relatively better communities I find narcissistic feminist women, furries, leftists, etc. are a dime a dozen. As socialites, there are a rare few who have gained some wisdom, but as with other communities I've seen, few and far between.
If I go take a dance class, I find older, conservative men and women, a younger narcissistic feminist woman (but hey, at least I can connect with those women on games and anime...), a younger Christian woman raised in a broken family, lacked self-esteem and got plastic surgery and breast implants because of it... Seems maybe some other homeschooled girls out there, too...? (Where's the younger men? Playing video games I guess? XD)
If I go to an anime or game convention, well now you have all this mask and vaccine stuff and it just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
So, it seems to me that the wise are few and far between wherever you go, and just about any place people gather and like games/anime/VR is captured by leftism. So where am I supposed to go?
I feel like I need to create my own community, because the community I'm looking for just doesn't exist. I've written a 3D engine from scratch in Vulkan for VR that can do online multiplayer, maybe I'll just try and setup a little community there+Discord+Twitter+Twitch...? I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a community leader, but if I don't do it, I'm not sure who will.
My suggestion would be to look at your hobbies and see if there are groups in your area that match. more mainstream hobbies are unfortunately pretty infested, but it is still possible to find a group that just likes to partake rather than engage in culture war bullshit. generally, the more niche and tactile the hobby is, the better the group.
Athletic hobbies are also a good way to go if you're into that sort of thing. look for groups doing pick up games of basketball, baseball, ultimate frisbee, soccer, etc etc. you'd be surprised how chill jocks can be post-High-School. just be prepared to get in shape, especially for team sports.
lastly, if it's in the cards, you might just have to move. some areas are so infested with moral busy bodies and culture war bullshit that nothing is sacred. I learned that the hard way in two cities I've lived in. unironically, if you live in a blue county, try moving to a purple or red county. definitely do your due diligence by visiting and getting a sense of the vibe before pulling the trigger on anything.
as for making your own community, it's not very hard if you keep the group focused. make sure your community is about something in particular, be it a game or hobby or even geographic location. With the community theme in place, gatekeep the everliving shit out of it by filtering out anyone who does not wish to partake in that hobby or otherwise belongs to the community theme.