I was similarly violent in my young childhood. We had broken N64 and GameCube controllers left and right because of me. That habit completely reversed between Middle School and high school, and now I'm considered an extremely calm person amongst my social group 15+ years later.
Looking back, something that helped me was the sport that I decided to take up: fencing. much like gaming, fencing has a lot of direct competition between you and an opponent and there's plenty of opportunity for banter and ridicule. however, unlike video games, if you have a bad outburst in fencing you get kicked out of the club, and possibly go to jail depending on how bad it gets.
Additionally, fencing is a sport that is all about control. there's a quote in the 1990s Zorro movie: "never attack in anger". This is very good advice for fencers and martial artists alike, because anger tends exaggerate movements that don't need to be exaggerated and can destroy your precision.
These two aspects, as well as other positive influences in my life, contributed greatly to reversing my anger issues.
On the subject of anger and video games, the thing that helps me in both fencing and video games is to recognize that you can always be better. There's only ever one person in the world who is the best, and even they have room to improve. Thus, when you have a catastrophic misplay, take a deep breath and go over it in your head. Focus on how you could have played it better, maybe even meditate on it before bed. That way, instead of an embarrassing moment, the misplay becomes another rung on the ladder to improvement.
I was similarly violent in my young childhood. We had broken N64 and GameCube controllers left and right because of me. That habit completely reversed between Middle School and high school, and now I'm considered an extremely calm person amongst my social group 15+ years later.
Looking back, something that helped me was the sport that I decided to take up: fencing. much like gaming, fencing has a lot of direct competition between you and an opponent and there's plenty of opportunity for banter and ridicule. however, unlike video games, if you have a bad outburst in fencing you get kicked out of the club, and possibly go to jail depending on how bad it gets.
Additionally, fencing is a sport that is all about control. there's a quote in the 1990s Zorro movie: "never attack in anger". This is very good advice for fencers and martial artists alike, because anger tends exaggerate movements that don't need to be exaggerated and can destroy your precision.
These two aspects, as well as other positive influences in my life, contributed greatly to reversing my anger issues.
On the subject of anger and video games, the thing that helps me in both fencing and video games is to recognize that you can always be better. There's only ever one person in the world who is the best, and even they have room to improve. Thus, when you have a catastrophic misplay, take a deep breath and go over it in your head. Focus on how you could have played it better, maybe even meditate on it before bed. That way, instead of an embarrassing moment, the misplay becomes another rung on the ladder to improvement.