I honestly don't agree, I was raised like you describe and I resented it. I look at friends that were raised with strict parents and they all are better adjusted and happier then those that were raised by peaceful parenting. Not only that, I'm looking at what personalities kids that are now 8-10 have in respect to how they are raised. The ones from strict parents that even smack them every once in a while are better behaved and independent. If you wonder about the independent part, this is because kids will have more confidence in themselves if you enforce a structure that they must conform to. They can go explore and do things with confidence because as long as they follow the rules they are safe. Kids that don't have an enforced environment are more narcissistic, they expect attention from everyone and they seem more frightful of new environments without a parent figure to mediate.

I do agree that there are extreme cases were parents are actually abusive, but that is not yelling or even spanking. It is an entire different level. Abuse leads to resentment but tough parents do raise faithful and loving children.

This is just my experience in real life and is clouded by my resentment of how I was raised. I expect it also differs from girls to boys and boys need an authority figure more then girls.