So what is the point of your sympathy then if you won't help her, and you don't want other people to? To crow endlessly about how bad we feel for her while doing nothing? Because did you forget this part of what you said:

there should be ways back that don't leave people who legitimately want to change for the better behind in shitty places.

That's not just "man, her consequences suck," don't try to backtrack on it. Its actively calling for a change to the system to give her a way to absolve of her sins.