Nothing particularly insightful, but… It doesn’t surprise me in the slightest that this phenom is becoming more common…
Like, I’ve had some really bad stuff happen this week, because I let the wrong person into my life (again), but beyond that… Even just “going out into the world” can be so fucking hostile, it’s really no surprise people retreat like that…
“Social dysfunction” isn’t as obvious where I am as it might be elsewhere. Certainly, you don’t really see it, but have a conversation with the wrong person, or even just sit and observe long enough, and it becomes readily apparent that we’ve become a wider society of petty hostility and just general… Unpleasantness.
Places like NYC, Sydney and arguably Tokyo were always like this, but it’s largely “leaked” far beyond that now. Everyone feels like they’re out to get each other, or at each other’s throats, and that if you don’t play along with the odd beliefs of the person you are talking to? They might just decide to do something really nasty…
A 95-year old with dementia was tasered to death in a nursing home in Sydney a week ago (“She was carrying a knife!”). Just yesterday, a huge fire engulfed a massive historic building in Sydney, and no one put it out, until it was a raging inferno enough to destroy the entire thing (the circumstances of all that are very weird)…
Then there has been escalating brawls and attacks on police in several QLD cities this week.
It all feels… Increasingly hostile. And this is in Australia… “Commie shithole” aside, some of these things are quite unheard of…
So… Filtering this down into “ordinary interactions”, where people have become so hypersensitive and hostile about every disagreement, every little thing… It’s no wonder, honestly, that some young men have decided “Fuck this, why the fuck should I even bother anymore?”
I know I feel that way about “friendship” at this point, so for me, that’s pretty damn understandable…
Just my 10c.
I've been married for nearly 15 years, so I am perfectly aware my advice might be out of date, or maybe you just have tried it all before.
But as someone who's not part of the woke mob, I think it will be a miracle if you find somebody non-woke out in the open dating market.
The first thing I can tell you is that you need to become financially stable. If you're broke, that'll seriously limit your pool of possible mates. Having a solid financial life will also do wonders for your confidence and attitude.
The other thing I could advise you is to be in places where people aren't woke. A lot of people will mention church, and it's definitely a place to look, but even if you're not Christian, maybe going to Christian charities like soup kitchens and give them a hand. Also you could try getting into some kind of rougher sport where men and women train together like martial arts, triathlon and such. I'd give Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu a try, but then again I'm partial to it.
I feel for you my man. I have it very clear in my mind that if I had been born 15 years later, I wouldn't have had normal dating life.