Nothing particularly insightful, but… It doesn’t surprise me in the slightest that this phenom is becoming more common…
Like, I’ve had some really bad stuff happen this week, because I let the wrong person into my life (again), but beyond that… Even just “going out into the world” can be so fucking hostile, it’s really no surprise people retreat like that…
“Social dysfunction” isn’t as obvious where I am as it might be elsewhere. Certainly, you don’t really see it, but have a conversation with the wrong person, or even just sit and observe long enough, and it becomes readily apparent that we’ve become a wider society of petty hostility and just general… Unpleasantness.
Places like NYC, Sydney and arguably Tokyo were always like this, but it’s largely “leaked” far beyond that now. Everyone feels like they’re out to get each other, or at each other’s throats, and that if you don’t play along with the odd beliefs of the person you are talking to? They might just decide to do something really nasty…
A 95-year old with dementia was tasered to death in a nursing home in Sydney a week ago (“She was carrying a knife!”). Just yesterday, a huge fire engulfed a massive historic building in Sydney, and no one put it out, until it was a raging inferno enough to destroy the entire thing (the circumstances of all that are very weird)…
Then there has been escalating brawls and attacks on police in several QLD cities this week.
It all feels… Increasingly hostile. And this is in Australia… “Commie shithole” aside, some of these things are quite unheard of…
So… Filtering this down into “ordinary interactions”, where people have become so hypersensitive and hostile about every disagreement, every little thing… It’s no wonder, honestly, that some young men have decided “Fuck this, why the fuck should I even bother anymore?”
I know I feel that way about “friendship” at this point, so for me, that’s pretty damn understandable…
Just my 10c.
I've been married for nearly 15 years, so I am perfectly aware my advice might be out of date, or maybe you just have tried it all before.
But as someone who's not part of the woke mob, I think it will be a miracle if you find somebody non-woke out in the open dating market.
The first thing I can tell you is that you need to become financially stable. If you're broke, that'll seriously limit your pool of possible mates. Having a solid financial life will also do wonders for your confidence and attitude.
The other thing I could advise you is to be in places where people aren't woke. A lot of people will mention church, and it's definitely a place to look, but even if you're not Christian, maybe going to Christian charities like soup kitchens and give them a hand. Also you could try getting into some kind of rougher sport where men and women train together like martial arts, triathlon and such. I'd give Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu a try, but then again I'm partial to it.
I feel for you my man. I have it very clear in my mind that if I had been born 15 years later, I wouldn't have had normal dating life.
Counter-point, letting people know you're financially suitable also makes you a target, that's how bad things are. When men who are professionals and have something real to lose we have to be extra careful of the gold digging skanks out there because all it takes is one false accusation and we're done unless we have the finances on top of what we already have to legally defend ourselves. Even then a woman can very easily go out of her way to wreck your life even if you win a court case as anyone who's been through that will attest.
A negative reputation hit can stain a lot longer than any court win for a guy. That's not to discourage anyone from at least trying to find someone, but the threat is very real and there's no such thing as being too paranoid. I'd actually advise completely against talking about money, if the bitch keeps going on about it and trying to find out what you do, move on, she's shallow and fishing for a way to show off to her friends at best. For female psychology that's a genuine thing by the way, I read articles on it and it's fascinating, a lot of modern women want an equal or higher earner or they want a career they can show off and talk about to their girlfriends.