Indeed. Being Mediterranean might have some things being of more relevance due to local shared culture, but it is by no means a definitive thing. Being a man or straight likewise. He could in fact have more in common with an Irish or Japanese lesbian woman than his closes male neighbhour. Getting fixated on skin and sex is just as idiotic as those who do so on the left. Identity Politics divide. He should use his mutable hobbies, values, and views as shared interests instead of something un-changeable and un-choosable.