When men recognize we aren’t going to get the lifestyle we want in our current job (or lack thereof) or with our current skills, we find a new job or get some new skills rather than sit around thinking about suicide. I had to make a major career change myself at age 34, on recognition that my then-job was going to keep me impoverished for life and I wasn’t okay with that. You should try making a career/skills change. 30 is not in any way too late to do that. You also want children; despite a lot of lame jokes we hear about the biological clock, no part of a woman’s 30s is too late to have kids, so if you spend some time becoming more self-sufficient, you’ll still have time to nab a MATURE man and have a family. But the time to stop wallowing is right now. Men in their 30s might be willing to carry the full weight of supporting “a flaky artist” but the likely reality is, any man who just wants to carry a woman through life already found her in his 20s. Women who want that are the type who go to college only seeking “the MRS degree,” or took similar strategies. Men who want that can find a 22-year-old.
The advantage of being a self-sufficient woman in her 30s is that you’re going to attract self-sufficient men in their 30s. Put both together and you have a comfortable household to raise children in. So go for it! Don’t think life isn’t worth living just because it hadn’t worked out yet!
When men recognize we aren’t going to get the lifestyle we want in our current job (or lack thereof) or with our current skills, we find a new job or get some new skills rather than sit around thinking about suicide. I had to make a major career change myself at age 34, on recognition that my then-job was going to keep me impoverished for life and I wasn’t okay with that. You should try making a career/skills change. 30 is not in any way too late to do that. You also want children; despite a lot of lame jokes we hear about the biological clock, no part of a woman’s 30s is too late to have kids, so if you spend some time becoming more self-sufficient, you’ll still have time to nab a MATURE man and have a family. But the time to stop wallowing is right now. Men in their 30s might be willing to carry the full weight of supporting “a flaky artist” but the likely reality is, any man who just wants to carry a woman through life already found her in his 20s. Women who want that are the type who go to college only seeking “the MRS degree,” or took similar strategies. Men who want that can find a 22-year-old.
The advantage of being a self-sufficient woman in her 30s is that you’re going to attract self-sufficient men in their 30s. Put both together and you have a comfortable household to raise children in. So go for it! Don’t think life isn’t worth living just because it hadn’t worked out yet!