I've been on a number of incel communities and know guys that even self describe themselves as Incels.
As counterintuitive as it might seem for a lot of people who think they know Incels, I'd say based on my observations. Incels actually really do love women in a sacrificing manner. They're kind of like chivalrous romantics that believe in the true love kind of stuff. The whole feel like I'm incomplete and there's a hole in my heart and a woman's love would fill this void.
Unfortunately, reality tends to hit and regular non-disney fabricated dating dynamics begin to show themselves. Women want money, status, power and use their affection as leverage with men to get that. A lot of Incels simply aren't valuable enough to get the affection they seek from women. This is ultimately what leads to their rage. A sense of being unwanted. And women treat men they don't want exceptionally bad. When men don't like men, men still have a sense of decorum. Women are outright vicious and psychopathic toward men they don't like.
A really good movie to understand Incels is How The Grinch Stole Christmas (2000). I know lots of people recommend The Joker but The Grinch actually shows Incels better. The Grinch was rejected by women and the one woman he did have a crush on used him. He became bitter and jaded and cold. But what saved the Grinch in the end? The kindness of a young girl. That's actually what incels desire more than anything, to be treated with genuine kindness and a sense of desire/belonging from women, especially a woman he himself has an attraction toward. Once the Grinch was shown this kindness he become a good person, the end.
Incels want to be saved in this same manner. And in this desire that often becomes a fixation and obsession, it might not be unimaginable that the Incel decides to become the very woman he desires himself because in doing so he then presumed to fill the void in his heart by becoming the very thing he desires more than anything else. You get that fixated and obsessed you start to become that very thing. Not unimaginable. And also the LGBTQ+ community is very welcoming to anyone, which also adds to it. A regular straight man who is undesirable becomes a loner. A trans guy gains a whole community of people supporting his transition and that sense of desire and belonging he sought starts to be felt. At least, it's an opportunity. If being a straight man didn't work why not try the latest trend of becoming a girl and seeing how it goes?
I've been on a number of incel communities and know guys that even self describe themselves as Incels.
As counterintuitive as it might seem for a lot of people who think they know Incels, I'd say based on my observations. Incels actually really do love women in a sacrificing manner. They're kind of like chivalrous romantics that believe in the true love kind of stuff. The whole feel like I'm incomplete and there's a hole in my heart and a woman's love would fill this void.
Unfortunately, reality tends to hit and regular non-disney fabricated dating dynamics begin to show themselves. Women want money, status, power and use their affection as leverage with men to get that. A lot of Incels simply aren't valuable enough to get the affection they seek from women. This is ultimately what leads to their rage. A sense of being unwanted. And women treat men they don't want exceptionally bad. When men don't like men, men still have a sense of decorum. Women are outright vicious and psychopathic toward men they don't like.
A really good movie to understand Incels is How The Grinch Stole Christmas (2000). I know lots of people recommend The Joker but The Grinch actually shows Incels better. The Grinch was rejected by women and the one woman he did have a crush on used him. He became bitter and jaded and cold. But what saved the Grinch in the end? The kindness of a young girl. That's actually what incels desire more than anything, to be treated with genuine kindness and a sense of desire/belonging from women, especially a woman he himself has an attraction toward. Once the Grinch was shown this kindness he become a good person, the end.
Incels want to be saved in this same manner. And in this desire that often becomes a fixation and obsession, it might not be unimaginable that the Incel decides to become the very woman he desires himself because in doing so he then presumed to fill the void in his heart by becoming the very thing he desires more than anything else. You get that fixated and obsessed you start to become that very thing. Not unimaginable. And also the LGBTQ+ community is very welcoming to anyone, which also adds to it. A regular straight man who is undesirable becomes a loner. A trans guy gains a whole community of people supporting his transition and that sense of desire and belonging he sought starts to be felt. At least, it's an opportunity. If being a straight man didn't work why not try the latest trend of becoming a girl and seeing how it goes?
This is a very well-thought-out and well-written comment. +1