It depends on whether she's actually a clean freak or just mad that she is doing more of the work. If she's a freak, no amount of his self directed cleaning will be good enough. If she is not then potentially doing less work overall could be better for both of them. But that's giving up a lot of control. For the control freak it's easier to "fix" it and then complain about it. Which is why these problems are so hard to resolve