No, family disintegration is not the norm in society. The issue is that western civilization has completely demoralized, and the institutions are pushing anti-moralization, which is why the Christians are referring to it as "Satanic" and "Demonic". That's what those words mean from their perspective.

I've been talking about this stuff a lot. Fundamentally, we no longer know the basic foundations of how to build lasting relationships that are intimate and healthy. Our culture has been completely corrupted by Leftist presuppositions, which means that since all of our premises are wrong, all of our conclusions are going to be jacked.

I've only seen a few relationships carry on indefinitely. The success rate is minimal.

However, that doesn't mean that it can't be done, it just means that people don't know how to do it right. They are pre-disposed to fail because society, culture, and institutions have set them up for failure.

The reason toxic people stay together is twofold:

• They are either co-dependent on one another's toxcicity.
• They know they are supposed to stay together but don't know why.

We can ignore the co-depenency part because there's not much to be done about that until they figure it out themselves. They're actually supposed to stay together for the sake of children, but it also requires them to continue to work on the relationship together and not burden the children with their relationship problems. They might argue, but it shouldn't involve the kids, even as older teens.

And yeah, the kids would be better off if the parents stayed together and worked on their problems, while protecting the kids from those problems.

I realise that I am almost certainly an outlier,

I can't really afford to tell you my whole story, but I can tell you, you ain't no outlier.

No black-pilling.

I can tell you that my Libertarianism comes partly from my own lived experience. I really do try to live my principles, and it's not easy... but it did work. I realized that as I cut genuinely toxic things out of my life, you gain control over things you can manage, and then you build your strength up from there by taking more personal responsibility of what you can handle. It's a hard road, but I think it's the only one once you come to the conclusion that it's not (just) you, but your whole social & family network that's broken.

I can say that my life has improved, but I traded bad inputs for atomization. That's not a bad deal, but atomization is definitely not a good thing, so building that social community is next up on my list.

I like the idea that "family is the people you choose to include in it", but I am yet to find my... "One". I'm honestly yet to really find anyone.

This is what I mean by wrong presuppositions.

You don't find "the one". That's Leftist bullshit because they think they are perfect, and they are instilling in all of us, the life goals of a 14 year old pretty-pink-princess girl.

You build relationships. You literally construct them from scratch. You don't find any one. You find people that can become your one.

Big difference.

I can't go crazy on detail at the moment, but I'll give you a basic run-down of the order of events.

• Remove negative self-impositions on you that you can't control (this may be larger than you think)
• Learn how to adapt to negative occurrences.
• Develop a stoic mindset to stay adaptable
• Develop a moral foundation.
• Allow this moral foundation to be challenged, and allow your experiences to give you introspection on how you should construct a moral framework.
• With discipline, stoicism, and integrity; become socially understood as a higher-quality worker. This means also carry yourself like you respect yourself, and want others to respect you.
• Forcibly socialize yourself with your co-workers. Be generous, affable, and helpful to them. The most important part of work to your life is Lunch. No, I'm not kidding.
• Train your co-workers to your position so that you institutionalize good conduct as you move your way up.
• Save your money. Like, 30-50% of it. Your wealth can be weaponized as a bulk capital to solve problems. Ask me about the $500 cake I bought.
• Stay friends with some co-workers that leave, and befriend friends of your co-workers. This broadens your social experiences and significantly widens your social network.
• Opportunities will present themselves, continue to say yes, even when you have to re-arrange your schedule.
• Make it clear to each of your friends, friend groups, and co-worker groups, that you are competent, reliable, and capable of helping them. This will cause you to ascend a social hierarchy.
• Ascending a social hierarchy will begin to attract women looking for mates. They are not here to save you, you are looking to see if they are good enough help you build your relationship.

That is how you get to the point of finding some one to have a relationship with.

Okay, yes, sure, it's a lot of work and you don't do any of it. I didn't either, how do you think I figured it out? I started doing it, it was incredibly difficult, and I'm still working on it.

So yeah, you're an uncivilized, savage, degenerate living in a burning husk of a civilization. Good. It'll make a great story to tell after you've won. Realize that no one's coming to save you, so you have to pick your bootstraps up with your own teeth and hurl yourself into the storm to become stronger, better, and wiser. You will fail repeatedly. Good, that's how you learn.

You are kissed by an iron fist, and you will be sainted by the storm

No black-pilling.