My family is... Not a healthy or happy one. I imagine most people know this by now. Yet, for reasons that I honestly do not understand, my parents are still together. Toxic, painful, continuously arguing, but still together...
The same cannot be said for extended family. Divorces everywhere. A number of children out of wedlock. Painful intergenerational relations on both side. Lots of "not talking". Lost of... Honestly, relationships that are far more negative than they are positive. As the black sheep "loser" of the family, I can't tell you how shit my relationship with nearly all my cousins is, right now. I could, I suppose, blame myself for that, but I really don't think it is that simple...
I actually don't think this is that uncommon, where I live. Sure, most people don't have family quite as toxic as my own, however divorce is utterly ubiquitous. Siblings not getting along is probably more common than not. And honestly, it feels like people almost expect families to behave like this - not communicating, not really talking, and generally... Not behaving like civilised adults. At least amongst the majority "white" population, in addition to the "blak" population (among whom it is most definitely even worse, lol), this is... All too common.
Thoughts? What's it like for you lot, where you live? Do you get along with your extended family? Are you close to them? I realise that I am almost certainly an outlier, where my family are fucking shit, in addition to being the "black sheep loser to end all black sheep losers", but... I'm just curious.
I like the idea that "family is the people you choose to include in it", but I am yet to find my... "One". I'm honestly yet to really find anyone. So I don't have that to have as my "core". I'm sure it's very different for those that do. Unfortunately, though, I'm not sure I will ever even find that...
So yeah. Pretty blackpilled about "family", at the moment, after mounting betrayals, I have to be honest. Would appreciate some... Alternative insights, if your life experience differs in that way.
Feminism and the sexual liberation movements have allowed women to sexually emancipate themselves from having to depend on men to provide for them. Women are now in a pre civilized state where they just form harems around the top 5% of men who are genetic chads, which leaves a large portion of men in the dust since they have nothing to offer women anymore because they don't have the looks and women can easily provide for themselves instead now.
Its over.
women still require men to survive. they just force us to provide through government.
men have no authority over their family but must assume all responsibility for the family. the woman can leave at any time and there are no consequences.
the best woman will probably divorce you when you get older anyway. there are no consequences for doing this, only upside. half your retirement. you have no say. she'll just wreck your life and move on for no other reason than it's profitable to do so and she's kind of tired some days of being around you.