Yes, that is exactly it. It makes more sense when you look at it at the level that feminists actually make that decision from: male sexuality is evil and wrong, and female sexuality is empowering and good. All their arguments using other words are actually just post-hoc justifications for this fundamental belief, which is why those arguments are so often contradictory. If a man enjoys looking at a woman in a bikini, it's bad, but if a woman wants to wear a bikini, it's good. Unless she's doing it for a man, then it's bad again. So yes, a woman having sex with a lot of men is empowering, a man having sex with a lot of women is abusive. A man talking about how he likes having sex is disgusting, a woman talking about how she likes having sex is high art.

This is how you can make sense of their attitude on fictional women, too. Fictional woman in a game or comic or movie who's attractive? It must be for men, so it's sexist, even though there's no actual woman to be 'abused', and it may have been a woman who created the character in the first place. Actual woman trying to wear a bikini to work at the office or something? That's empowering and good. It all falls into place when you just realize what their actual thought process is.