Kari Lake : "Toxic Masculinity doesn't exist"
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Behavior can be both toxic in a masculine or feminine form. The concept of "Toxic Masculinity" as an ideological construct doesn't exist. But a form of domestic abuse in a masculine form might be a man beating his wife to death, while the form of domestic abuse in a feminine form might be a woman convincing her boyfriend to kill himself.
This is silly, and completely buys into the leftist assumption base that sex-categorized behaviors can be "toxic." You use their terms, you play their game, you've lost already. You don't resist leftist bullshit by absorbing their foundational assumptions. You agree to "toxic" behaviors innate to sex, you might as well start swinging around the word "problematic" next, for all the sense it makes.
It's hard enough to agree on firm, clear definitions of "masculine" and "feminine." If you can't universally agree upon them, then you certainly can't define aberrant, damaging behaviors as being intrinsically tied to exaggerated forms of masculine and feminine. Ex: A man beating his wife to death is an example of masculine toxicity? That's sheer impulse control failure--when a generally agreed-upon hallmark of masculinity is nothing but stoicism and impulse control. You can see the stupidity of the trap: "Masculine" comes to define not anything intrinsic to maleness, but is used as a catch-all for unwanted outcomes.
Which is really what it's all about, and why it's a stupid game to get caught in. "Toxic" isn't a useful signifier. It just means "An excuse to pathologize stuff I don't like."
I think you're going way too far for this. First of all, I do think feminine and masculine behaviors exist. Physical violence, particularly the unarmed physical murder of a spouse is damn near universally committed by males. I'd say that any behavior that is predominantly, especially universally, emergent in males/females can be categorized as masculine/feminine respectively. Especially when those behaviors may be emergent from the biological differences between males and females.
You're looking at masculinity and femininity from an optimal form, as if these categories are reserved specifically for positive behaviors. I think it's more appropriate to think of things like stoicism is mature masculine behaviors being that the most well-developed men will exude them, where as ill-developed, or under-developed males (like boys) may not, and still need to mature.
Toxic is a vernacular term which denotes a pathological behavior that helps to cultivate a damaging psychological, social, or emotional environment for all parties. It may be being misapplied by Leftists, but Leftists do that to all words in all cases.
And I think you're standing on completely shifting sand regarding "optimal" versus "toxic," as I demonstrated by dismantling your single example. I could go further than this: If you take off the completely arbitrary limiter of "spousal abuse to the point of death," and look instead at "spousal abuse," it is far more common to be instigated and generally perpetrated by women. We know this through statistics regarding domestic violence among lesbian couples, and crime statistics referring to non-reciprocated domestic violence among heterosexual couples. Beating your S.O. is largely a woman thing (Beating to death merely shows that men tend to have greater efficacy when it comes to domestic violence--if you ignore stabbings--but not greater proclivity for it). Yet you used it as your prime example of "masculinity" gone awry to the point of being..."divergent from optimal," I suppose you would call it.
And so it goes. As I said, it was your one example, and it's flawed to the point of being completely backwards from reality. Again. Last time it was declaring a failure of impulse control as intrinsically male, now you've misidentified the tendency toward hitting a romantic partner as somehow intrinsically male. Swing and miss in both cases. I'm afraid you're going to have to do the work of explaining, in a factual and justifiable way, each and every example you have of "toxic" (or "not optimal") masculinity. Both how it is intrinsically "masculine," and how it is its definite connection to maleness, that makes it specifically male toxicity.
Of course, by doing so, you're aping a college Women's Studies pursuit. You'd be arbitrarily declaring things intrinsically this and that, based on your say-so. Why you would want to do such a thing is beyond me.
No. Your focus on pedantry with a refusal to listen in good faith, combined with a declaration of victory is straight out of 2012 shit-tier skepticism YouTube videos.
You don't deserve an explanation.