if he just acts like a normal, reasonably masculine heterosexual.

Yes because he would be seen as NOT GAY, then.

As long as he acts like a flaming queen, he can just totally savage women, though, and they'll just let it happen because "oh he's so catty!"

But basic white women absolutely lose in any conflict. They are the bottom of the totem pole and they are expected to make any and all sacrifices to further the intersectional cause. Those who stick up for themselves are labelled as TERFs and excommunicated.