FWIW I agree with you most of the way, but muh free drugs open borders lolbertarians set back the movement for decades. Thank years of astroturfing by big business interests that just wanted us to support Republicans' low-tax no regulations free-trade agenda. Crackpot sovereign citizen types haven't helped things either.

The American Individualist's best bet right now is to ally with the right-wing and push for decentralization (state rights, removing federal powers). At least micro-state alliances with shared values are better than a giant empire working for Globohomo. As the other comments point out you'll never convince some people to stop being statist, and if enough people want to impose their will on you through state power, you need stronger control of state power to stop them and protect your freedom. That or balkanization. You just need to remind our potential allies here that you'll fight against the authoritarian commies as hard as they will and impose whatever efforts are needed to keep them from regaining power. That you're willing to meet in the middle and don't insist on a fairy-tale land where everyone lives and lets live and doesn't need to practice eternal vigilance against subversion.

I think you'd also find that with smaller demographically homogenous states, the desire towards anti-statism will lessen because you'll be with "your people" and tend to agree on what's a private freedom vs. legitimately questionable. Whatever government you impose will naturally feel libertarian.